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Hi all
Have my second court call next week a lot has happened since the first hearing. Contact was not resumed for myself as socail messed up didn't communicate with me and left loads of questions un answered witch ment I couldn't attend I was furious and gutted. This led to a full complaint and a formal apology being made they were ment to restart contact again now id got them to communicate but instead ss refer it back to court not happy. That's pretty much all that's happend from my side
However on the exs side its a different story bare in mind there is a history of child abuse and drugs mental illness.
So since last court call the police have been out twice to her for welfare checks both times reported kids are OK but house is a state and stinks of weed ex has admitted cannabis usage now. Despite all the history the best that ss achieved was to give hern a stern word and promise me increased visits and checks not really good enough to satisfy me if I'm honest.
This has been reported to the court by myself and socail my query is how are the court going to view this im so worried they are just going to brush it off like social have that will devistae me. I need the court to push contact so I can rebuild my relationship as to aid my residency case I'm hoping the court will take a dim view of her blantly not placing my daughter first
Anyone had anything similar to this how did it play out what should I expect
Thanks
I am sorry , but u wont be getting residency. You will need to go for contact but not residency. Unfortunately SS will recommend to family court what contact you should have and u will need to form a good relationship with them.
However if your ex keeps ignoring/flouting what SS are asking from her then situation may change further down line in future.
In mean time it isnt so be patient and try as hard as i know it is to work with professionals
But there are serious safeguarding issues inc her drug usage witch has just fired up again not having contact isn't my fault she blocked me despite everything socail told her not to the courts wernt exactly pleased with her on first hearing and she was told off a few times im baffled how they can leave my daughter at risk when she has somewhere else to go thats safe
The best you can do is to repeat your concerns at the hearing. You could speak to the school (if they are school age) and explain to them your concerns. The school can make a referral to social services if they feel there are issues.
Are you dealing with Children's Services or Cafcass? If it's CS, is your daughter on a plan with them?
Has anyone suggested that a Section 37 Report is carried out?
As Champagne says, you will need to keep raising the issues at court. If your daughter is under Children's Services, it's likely that the school will be aware of this, but advisable to speak with them too.
Not school age only 14m have repeated myself time and time again feel like I'm hitting a brick wall
Hi its children services they were already involved so cafcas got dismissed.
Daughter is 14m so to young for school issue is ex puts on a very good looking front but has on sevral occasions slipped up socail have caught this and are well aware of her history etc but still do not really act they are more keen to work with the mother than protect the children it seems my daughter hasn't been ss free a single day of her life because of ex I wasn't aware of half of it until court told me. Section 37 thats child protection hearing yes? She's already been on the register was for a year got taken off as they deemed ex had done enough 2weeks later ss are back on sence back but hesitant to place back under sec 37 issue being as I was told if she gets put on sec 37 with court on going she will most prob loose kids right away im not interested in the politics of this I just want to protect my daughter she can have a relationship with her mother but in a safe monitored environment one witch I can be sure she's not exposed to abuse or drugs etc
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