Hi all
So just a quick one really I've decided to go back to court for various reasons with regards to my ex her behaviour around the kids and emotional abuse etc. she has complex PTSD meant to be medicated but I don't believe she takes them although I can't physically prove that the medication has a profound effect on ex practically zombies her out and haven't seen that in months.
My basic question is how will the courts treat her PTSD my main argument is it makes her unable to parent adequately she has no support network is constantly on high alert angry shouts screams no emotional control irrational etc this isn't the right environment for children 6yo already displaying major emotional control issues in school and violent temperament like the ex now my 4yo has some early warning signs I need to shield her from it as development at this stage is critical to her adult life
Has anyone dealt with this?
Thanks in advance
hi,
if her condition does not make her unfit to parent, I don't think they will pay much attention to it. they will likely ask her to get letter from GP to show any concerns.
I am in the same boat, Unmedicated Schizophrenia, and boy do I get emotionally abused every day of my life - And over 7 years, I have not found one helpline that genuinely helps fathers.
I am threatened, coerced, and gaslighted but I know this is not the mother I met, she was fine when she was medicated 7 years ago.
Now I have been to express my concerns to the school, etc and I am branded a gaslighter.
The system is failing genuine fathers. All it takes is one daily blowout from her and she is calling my neighbours, the police, and everybody about me.
Please, any advice? I have tried mediation, but she did not attend. I have been told that I will be reported falsely anytime I as much as try to discuss my 8-year-old.
My health is a mess, I live on eggshells. My little girl when she stays with me, does not want to leave to go home.
Myself and my ex have never been married and I only try and help, but am shot down with the most cruel threats and accusations when she does not like what she hears, and trust me that could be as simple as saying my daughter needs to drink more water or cut down on electronics for example.
Please, I have not a penny to go through court, I am unwell and on disability. Please bear that in mind as it means basically, I am gagged
Regards
@brimay hi I feel your pain what your going through sounds very very similar to myself. I'm struggling to get any straight answers myself I escaped from the ex but can't get far enough away I'm still under the thumb so to speak I have to agree to everything regarding contact or risk loosing it. I've begged everyone for help social courts police charity's etc No1 listens social have concerns and have opened a case but won't last or find anything they never do just claim they don't have the money staffing or time. I'm taking my ex to court for residency she has a huge social history already lost one child years ago tonnes of police records my daughter was on child protection before she was born abuse claims have been made against her not just by me but by others as as well and still nobody wants to listen I've managed to get caffcas involved this time and so far they seem very keen on looking at her past and mental health but will have to see how that pans out
@bill337 the issue is not just her condition but how it effects the children and thier development and her 6yo has a tonne of mental development issues emotional control rage etc and professionals have already stated this is probably caused by his mother uncontrolled PTSD and now my daughter is displaying symptoms social are saying it's a form of emotional abuse towards kids but they need to do assessment etc I'm not saying she can't parent but I'm hoping the court will see that leaving my daughter with mom full time will lead to a emotionally unstable traumatized teenager that will probably have behaviour issues. I know social can see this and find it they did it with my son as a result he now lives with me full time
Regards
@brimay If you feel you need to go to court, there are some helpful guides o. the advicenow.org.uk website. These include information about child contact and representing yourself in court. It is ok to self represent in these matters.
