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The poor child needs away from there to start a new life.
update on court!!
Court has been adjourned for 3 weeks time. Social worker came to court and went in with my son. She asked for interim residency but as the mother was in hospital and not read the reports, they have given her a bit more time.
Social worker is coming to support my son in 3 weeks time.
However my main concern and the social workers is that because she stated the childs wishes and feelings(she wants to live here) the mother will make the child feel really bad for saying that. The child was worried that mummy would be upset on hearing this!
Mummy has obviously read reports now(she has made a miraculous recovery from being at deaths door in hospital) and is kicking off sending me messages.
I'm really worried for the child who is only 6yrs old
It's a difficult time for you all. I would say that if you feel the mother is giving the child a hard time and the child is suffering, that you contact the SW immediately.
It's hoped that the mother will realise the gravity of the situation and be on best behaviour around the child.
As far as the messages are concerned, don't react, get copies of them and pass them to the SW, as you say, it illustrates that she is most likely being manipulative and Using illness as a way of preventing the judicial process.
Not long now smallnanny, it's a really emotional time for you all, but we are all behind you.
Thank you for your support. son has notified the soc worker that mum is peed off after reading reports and we are concerned she may bully the child(as she has been witnessed doing before) asked her to notify school to keep an eye out. We do not live near them(approx. 60 miles away). All our phones have been blocked from contacting her.
This case was on the verge of Child protection. It didn't quite meet the criteria, but I feel it does now. She admitted to new BF + DV, Child heard this(Also in report) I wish we could push this a bit quicker. 3 weeks seems forever, even moreso for the child. I normally call her a couple of times a week but as been blocked I cannot. Am going to call soc worker again in morning
The mother still blaming everyone else for this situation even after reading reports( all focused on her inability). which is the most worrying thing.
...if she were to accept responsibility for her actions, she would have to do something about it. My sons ex is also incapable of insight and yes it is worrying.... Keep us posted smallnanny.
The mother still blaming everyone else for this situation even after reading reports( all focused on her inability). which is the most worrying thing.
My ex wife still does this 10 years on. It's her loss as my children barely want to have contact with her, even now they are grown up.
Do the courts normally go with the recommendations of the Section 7 social workers report?
Thankyou x
Also, The section 7 welfare report has a lot of errors(childs age in chronology and respondents name is wrong a couple of times) Will tjhis be an issue in court? thanks
Generally, the court will follow the S7 recommendations unless either party can challenge them competently and with good reason.
thankyou very much, this site has been a godsend to myself and my son
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