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Hi Everyone, short story for you all:
I have 2 children, they live with me, A and B for the sake of anonymity.
A sees their Mother 7/14 nights. I get on well with A's mother and we split time evenly.
B see their mother 4/14 nights. B's mother has a cluster B personality disorder and doesn't really care for B very well.
This has been the case for years.
Much earlier this year I went on holiday, I left B in the care of a relative for the nights they were with me.
A couple of days into this holiday I found out that B was not being returned, I spoke to the mother who said no. Not much I can do as there was no court order in place and she has PR.
I got back from my holiday to find the Mother had gone to court, told the court that B lived with her and that I was threatening them both. She had legal aid for this and the court have an order that I couldn't speak to either of them or go near them.
I had this overturned the next day and B was home, and had been ever since.
The mother's legal aid was based on this allegation of threatening behaviour and that B lived with her. Her legal aid was cancelled after the hearing.
I have been in and out of court all year now with the mother for no real reason, her legal aid had just been reinstated also so I am back in a few weeks.
The claims she made to get legal aid were found by the court to be false and misleading yet I am still paying every month to fight this.
I will never get any money out of the mother even if I am awarded it (the judge offered costs to me last time) so I am wondering, can I claim costs from the legal aid agency for them bankrolling this whole thing?
i would imagine you have next to no chance of that
I would email the legal aid representations team and inform them of the allegations and her health condition, they will assign a investigation and probably stop he legal aid for good
I understand that you don't think you'll get money from her, but I would still advise that you go for it as it might stop her continueing with litigation.
Definitely agree with mavic, contact the legal aid board and tell them what has been happening, you won't get compensation from them though, no chance.
All the best
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