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Hi again
My Partner was at Court on Monday and the Judge said he wouldn't listen to anything and that a final contested hearing would take place. He again said that he couldn't order contact but it should happen sooner rather than later. The Mother again refused hiding behind what the child had said to Cafcass that he didn't want contact (he is 9 years old) . The Judge ticked my partner off saying he should listen to the child which is what Cafcass put in the report. Which was odd because everything the child told Cafcass had so obviously come from his Mother. My Partner hasn't even been allowed to speak to his son since October so he's not had the opportunity to listen to what his son wants. My partner is so frustrated as Cafcass have sided with the mother and won't even acknowledge that the boy is being brainwashed and manipulated. The vocabulary he uses is parrot fashion to what the mother spouts.
It's flaming ridiculous that the Mother can get away with what she is doing and the Courts allow it.
The Judge was supposed to address the Order breach and that was ignored. In actual fact there was absolutely nothing different done at all since the last hearing in December and to be honest absolutely no movement since last September. It's diabolical.
The Judge said again the efforts both parties make regarding contact would be taken into consideration and he told the Mother that she should make the child phone his Dad once a week which is never going to happen.
We are planning to be in their home town for Easter and my Partner is going to text the mother to ask for some contact which we know we'll get the same reply that the child doesn't want to see his Father.
My Partner was again ready to walk away as he feels even the courts do nothing. They let her sit there with her smug look because she's getting away with being breaching orders and hiding behind her 9-year old who now says he doesn't want to see or speak to his Father due to all the negative lies she's instilled in him.
My Partner said that if he was a criminal and in prison he would've seen more of his son due to his human rights!
Now we've to sit and wait again with no date given for the next hearing. Meanwhile mother works more of her hatred on their son and makes him not want to see his dad even more. It's heart-breaking. The system sucks!!
Hi there,
A judge is not likely to make an order without hearing evidence, and that is where a contested hearing or trial comes into play.
Your partner will get the chance to put his evidence forward and make a case for contact to go ahead as he envisages it.
From what you say, it seems there is a degree of parental alienation going on. It may be worth consulting with some people with experience on this to see what you can do about it. I know a lady called Karen woodall has great experience with this issue. You can look her up online and perhaps get in contact for help and advice.
It really is a travesty that the mother is so [censored] bent on stopping contact that she would do what she is doing to the child. Some people unfortunately are cruel and vindictive and do not see what damage they do to both the child and the father that is desperate to see the child.
The thing is, if you truly believe that the child is being alienated, then you need to address this in court as best you can. Like I say, do try and speak to people who have experience of this issue who can point you in the right direction.
It does get to a point when all you experience going through court is let down after let down, and everything seems to go against you, and that of course makes you think whether it is all worth it. I sense your partner is very determined though, and you of course are very supportive, so that is good. I think you and your partner are still at an early stage in things here, so be supportive of him as you have done so far and help him through this tough time, and hopefully with the right guidance he can get a good result in court for him and the kids.
Simon.
Simon has given you good advice and Karen Woodall is the leader in this field. In the north, there's also a guy called Brian Cantwell, he might be a bit easier to seek advice from than Karen, another member has mentioned him before 🙂
Thank you so much. I'll look into the parental alienation people. The child is definitely being alienated. It's frightening when you read up on it all as he ticks every single box of the signs that demonstrate that he is being put thru this by his Mother. I can't understand her behaviour, particularly the fact she's a teacher of children the same age as her son. What a wicked woman.
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