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Hi all help needed on what to do next
Seperated over a year ago from my wife at the begining she stopped me seeing the 2 children we had together for 9 weeks. as she got a solicitor to start talking to me as she was able to get legal aid. i wrote the repsonces myself with help of parents. Finally we got contact agreed. Over the course of the year she has aquised me of not having a bond with my 4 year old son. Might add she was not talking to me at all until the last few months she was alsogetting her family to do the hand overs. she has continued to say i have problems with him and that for example im too stricked and shout etc. However this is not the case at all, all the problems she has raised i have not seen on my weekends with him at all. So After having a great weekend last time i saw them to the next time of picking them up shes saying he does not want to come to me and she is now saying she is not going to send him if he does not want to come. I feel that she is doing something her end to influence whats happening. As i only took my daughter last weekend as i was dropping her off the mother in law was at the door and when i asked to speak to my son the little boy who didnt really want to look at me or say anything wasnt the same son i dropped off the last weekend?! Then i was verbally abused by the mother in law at the door i did not get in to a argument and walked away. I left a phone message on the ex's phone later that night calmy saying how i was disgusted that she allowed he rmother to do that in ear shot of the kids. So thats roughly whats happend so my question is where do i go from here as i believe i will still be getting my daughter as the contact we had agreed but not my son. She texted me saying its alll my fault and she is doing what she believes is in his best interest, continuley saying its the way i am with them, however i have countless family and friends who will back me up on how i am with the kids and how the kids are with me.
So any help would be much appreicated in this
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