Has anyone been in a similar situation? Just looking for advise, pls.
My ex and I separated after my daughter was born. I moved in with a new gf who then persuaded me to move to Spain with her. Fast forward 5 years, the relationship broke up and I returned to the UK and found out that my ex remarried and her new husband was raising my daughter. I applied for contact. 2 years of battles, finally got supervised sessions. The sessions didn't go as planned as the time wasn't convenient for me. I was blamed for not turning up although I just couldn't make it because of the time. So, missed the 1st two because of the traffic issues, but they made a big fuss about it. I was really p*ssed off. I emailed my ex offering her to move Saturdays to Mondays, she said no. CAFCASS said basically it was my problem that I couldn't make weekends. So I left it there as I also have a life. 3 years later I reappplied to court but this time they said no as my daughter was 11 and didn't know me and was raised by another man who was her "daddy" that kind of sht. They also banned me from re-applying to court for 2 years which is expired now. My daughter is 13 yo and I'm looking to finally introduce myself into her life. What would be the best strategy as I doubt the court would allow me consideting the previous case.
hi,
sorry to hear this. how about sending her gifts, cards? would mother be ok with phone messaging?
Hi Gary,
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
I would echo Bill337's suggestion, that you could explore how you might initiate contact through a letter or a message, working with an approach which your ex and her husband are comfortable with. Try to keep reminding yourself how and why this might be very difficult for your daughter, and to understand how she might be feeling. Whatever way forward you find, I am sure you will understand that it must be in your daughter's best interests.
Caravan
Parent Support Worker