[Solved] Contact stopped cos of bail .. help please !

Guys after being arrested .. and then released on bail cos of false allegations made by my ex .... this has got back to the contact centre where i was seeing my kids ... one of the conditions of bail was that i keep away from my ex .. would never go near her anyways !

But now the contact centre has stopped contact happening at there centre because they cant guarantee me and my ex coming into contact !

So where the [censored] does that leave me seeing the kids ?!! Its odd cos ive heard that my ex's lawyer has filled a motion to the court to have our next family court hearing brought forward from early november to possibly sooner so the judge can look into this problem of contact now being stopped after my ex yet again brought up these allegations !

I really cant undertand her .. she tries to get me the jail and then once the contact centre inform her contact has been stopped cos of my bail conditions, she then has her lawyer try to get the next court date brought forward so the judge can look at options to start contact again ! What the [censored] is my ex playing at ?!!

Well thats now the kids been brought into it cos they were no doubt looking forward to seeing there dad and god knows what they have been told now cos contact has been stopped !

So guys im just wondering what options the judge has at the next hearing to start up contact again which was going great !

He cant force the contact centre to start contact again .. tho can he maybe alter the bail conditions if myself and my ex come to an agreement somehow ?

But if he doesnt have the power to change the bail conditions at this stage what else can he do or suggest .. or maybe im stuffed until these allegations are looked into or even dropped !

I was gona ask my lawyer if he could contact my ex's lawyer to ask her if she would even consider dropping her worthless allegations as they have no bearing on the kids and how contact is going .... but maybe this would be seen as some sort of emotional attempt by myself to have my ex drop her allegations by me using the kids as bait to have that done .... to be honest i dont even think my ex thought this far ahead when she made the false allegations of DV against me that contact would be stopped cos of bail conditions and it seems shes got onto her lawyer to start contact again asap !

Maybe she might reconsider the allegations she made ? I doubt it but its just a thought i guess .

I definitely think your solicitor needs to speak to the contact centre - the contact centre I used when my ex had contact with my children had a separate waiting room for me (parent with care) to ensure that the two parents didn't come into contact with each other - at least on the contact centre property.

Perhaps your ex could arrange with someone else to drop off and pick up your kids at the centre, that way she wouldn't have to go there and the contact centre wouldn't have the problem.

Yeh mate thats how the contact has been working ... i get to the centre 15 mins before she gets there with the kids and then wait in a small room until shes away ... then when she comes back , i wait 15 mins until she well away ..

I think the contact centre in over reacting a bit ,,,, maybe if at the upcoming court date i will suggest ur idea of someone else dropping the kids off ... or maybe even if i get there half an hour before my ex does and then wait half an hour or so in the centre after she has left ...

I think this centre is being like this cos at the last visit i had to give my 3 year old to my ex in person as my child was falling asleep on me and wouldnt go to anyone but her mum .. so i had to make contact with her ... will just have to reasure the centre that this will not happen again i guess !

Thanks actd 😉

If he's asleep, then if the contact centre can provide a bed or soft area, you could lay him down while he's asleep and then leave, and your ex could then come straight in. It does seem that they are being over cautious.

I've merged another of your threads into this one to keep all responses together.

Thanks mate 😉 the thing that does naggle at me is, how did the contact centre find out about my situation in the first place ??

Did my ex call them and inform them i had been arrested ? or maybe they have to be informed by law !

Tho somehow im thinking my ex made contact with them and told them about my situation ... cos she knew i was close to getting the kids out of the centre for the first time in a few weeks or so ... and wanted that put to a stop 🙁

It must have been your ex - the courts had no reason (or knowledge of which contact centre) to inform them - if the court had wanted to prevent contact, they could have issued a new order.

Defo the ex you've got to watch these contact centres they're just like Caftwats they take the mothers word for gospel mine are a nightmare they treat me like a piece of [censored] I so have to bite my lip.......gggrrrrrr.