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HI all,
Looking for some advice. In a nutshell I’m frustrated, confused and distraught.
Kids are 8 and 13. Split with ex wife 6 years ago and the kids have lived with me half the time. We’ve had no court order in place re contact, as all has been relatively amicable.
Out of the blue, she reported me to social care for not feeding the youngest one evening (obviously not true). They closed the case as soon as they spoke to me on the phone. She’s stopped communicating with me when her new partner came on the scene (October last year). Kids are not too fond of him (he sounds controlling). They now have a new baby and my youngest has struggled with the adjustments over there.
Ex wife is refusing to communicate with me, but she attended mediation and it was deemed not suitable. So I was able to buy the MIAM cert thing and proceed with the c100 application (8 weeks ago I put that in) and am waiting on a court date.
I’ve seen the eldest a couple of times, by chance meeting and he told me he’ll be punished by his mum if she knows he’s talking to me…so he’s doing it covertly on Snapchat.
I’ve sent the youngest a card, some stickers and a picture of us all in the post.
Just wanted to get some of your thoughts. I’ve never been to court before, so have no idea what to expect.
I don’t want to lose £1000’s on solicitors, but the stakes are also very high. Has anyone represented themselves on here? What’s your advice?
What outcomes are likely at court?
Any advice or support is appreciated
hi,
I think you are better off spending money on your children than on solicitors. With the right guidance you can self represent. feel free to get in touch if you need help. am sending you a private message.
There are some helpful guides about child arrangement orders and self representation in court on the advicenow.org.uk website
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