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HI,
I am hoping someone on here can give me some advice.
My 10yr old daughter moved over 250 miles away with her mother and new partner 2yrs ago.
Until yesterday I have enjoyed regular contact by phone, email, skype and Snapchat.
I also still had regular contact with my 15yr old step son.
My stepson recently has been playing up with his mother, I am guessing hormones!
however there has been situations where has accused her new partner of man-handling him and the police have been called. Social services are also involved via this school.
He has been quite rude to her and her new partner and saying he wants to live with me, they are now both blaming me for his behavour.
I am not sure what they are baseing there allegations on, but I have done nothing to cause any problems!
As the situation has now got worse between her and her son, she has decided to restrict my contact with him, to which I can understand if she believes it will resolve his attitude.
However, as the situation has not resolved, she has now stopped my open contact with my daughter and is saying all calls must be made through her phone and on loudspeaker, so she can listen.
This is completely uncalled for and I have done nothing to deserve this and it was not what we agreed in mediation.
The problem I now have is nothing was written down from mediation, nothing was agreed in court over contact and trying to get her to mediation will be impossible as she lives so far away.
What can I do! I can't afford legal help, I used all my money up before fighting her over contact which basically got me nowhere!
Thanks
Unfortunately, you would need to attend mediation and any applications would need to be made to a court where she lives. You could try calling a mediatior in her area and explaining your dilemma, because of the distance they may agree to sign off the form to allow you to move it straight to court.
Alternatively you could try contacting her local Social Services department and explain that your contact with your daughter has been severely effected by your stepsons situation, you could ask them to liaise with the mother to see if they might help get things back on track. I'm assuming that both children's welfare will come under the assessments that Social Services are making, so you should be involved, at least as far as your daughter is concerned... it's worth a try.
Best of luck
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