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I am at my wits end, I received a contact order in my favour on the 8th October, this staggered in contact but it basically consisted of the below.
Every Wednesday, Collection from school at 3:15 and return to mum at 7pm.
Alternative weekends, Friday from school until Sunday 5:30pm
plus holidays etc.
I had contact on Wednesday as the contact order stated. All went well as far as I am concerned.
However I have received a letter from mums solicitor stating that my daughters behaviour has deteriorated after the visit, wetting herself at school, misbehaving etc. I have spoken with her school and they have confirmed the wetting but stated that they feel its because she leaves herself to the last second and they confirmed its not a new thing either.
Surely mum cant remove access and break the contact order after one visit without consequence in the court.
She told the courts that my daughter was struggling with the change etc and the court advised mum that such things are normal and expected for a child of 5 however father has already had lots of positive contact with daughter and isn't a stranger, any issues experienced will gradually subside the more and more father gets to see daughter and confirmed that removing dad from the equation isn't the answer.
I have pasted the content of the letter below.
We are aware that the matter came before the North Staffs Family Proceedings Court on the 8th October when a contact order was made. Our client is currently seeking advice in relation to that order.
In the meantime however we are instructed that when contact took place between yourself and "child" on Wednesday 16th October that "child" before contact was extremely upset and distressed and indeed following her contact she was also upset indicating that she hadn’t been happy throughout the contact process. She was also concerned that you were not spending any quality time with her. Our client however is even more concerned by the fact that "child" has wet herself on several occasions since the contact took place on Wednesday, we understand that she has wet herself at school, something which she hadn’t done before and also that she has been wetting the bed at home, which she has never done before.
In addition, our client has been spoken to by "child" class teacher and told that "child" behaviour has deteriorated.
Our client feels that the current contact arrangements are simply not going to work in the best interests of "child" and we note that she has contacted you and asked you to reconsider the arrangements.
Our client’s main concern in relation to your contact with "child" boils down to your lack of quality time that is spent with her daughter.
Our client will therefore be making an application back to the Court to vary the terms of the Order and in the meantime has instructed us that she does not believe that "child" will be attending for contact this coming Wednesday 23rd October. Thereafter we understand that "child" is due to attend a pre-Hospital visit on Sunday 27th October. "child" is then due to attend Hospital the following Thursday to have her tonsils our. Our client therefore simply does not feel that it is in "child" best interests for her to be upset anymore and for this reason she will not be making "child" available for contact until such time as the Court has an opportunity to reconsider this matter.
Please be assured that our client does not wish to be obstructive in relation to contact, but she is giving serious consideration to challenging the terms of the Order made by the Court on the 8th October as she simply does not believe that the Order provides for "child" best interests.
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