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Not sure if this is right place for this post.
I have been spending one weekend a month with my daughter due to distance and work and this works.
However now my ex has just had another child with someone else and is now stopping all my contact. She no longer answers calls or texts.
How do I get in contact without causing more issues. Over the whole 8 years of my daughters life she has made it difficult for me and I am worried she will refuse me contact again as she had done in the past.
I am worried if I try to go formal routes she will turn nasty again last time I got a letter sent she told the police I attacked her and all sorts of lies which were disproven straight away.
Advice please.
Hi there
It's a good idea not to take matters in a more formal direction, as court should always be the very last resort... it can put a great deal more strain on all parties involved. However, sometimes there's just no other option.
It's not in your daughters best interests to stop contact in this way, for no good reason, but if she's ignoring your calls and texts, perhaps it's time to start the official process. If you continue to try and communicate with her in this way, you are leaving yourself open to accusations of harassment and it would be easy for her to take an injunction out on you, making re establishing contact with your daughter that much harder.
Mediation is the first step, it's better for you to contact the mediator and discuss your issues and leave it up to them to write to your ex and ask her to attend. If you and your ex live some distance apart, I would also advise that you choose a mediation service close to where she lives... the same would apply to the court that is used, if it gets that far.
If mediation fails, the next step would be a court application for a Child Arrangements Order. Some members decide to self represent, it's doable and we would advise and support you through the process. There's also lots of information about the process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section that you may find helpful.
all the best
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