[Solved] Contact court and general help

When CAFCASS call, explain that you have managed to work together on an agreement and have written it up and ask if they would like a copy to be sent to them. During the interview just keep your responses child focussed and positive.

As Yoda has suggested, to avoid no order being made, explain that due to the history of contact being stopped, you feel that a consent order is necessary to prevent this from happening again.

You're doing really well, well done for turning things around and good luck with everything.

Thankyou both for your responses we both want a order 100 percent she suggested court in the first place and writing a plan between us which reassured me as this is what I wanted also it's mainly for peace of mind and so noone can reslly.mess.around anymore. So should the court see it as fairly straightforward because of us agreeing and by the time of court it will already be in process of unsupervised plus I used to have shared care for 4 years do I hace to serve anything to my ex about court or do they inform her? . Once again thanks again

if you haven't received an extra set of paperwork back from the court, along with your own,then you won't be expected to serve on her, the court will have taken care of it. If you're in doubt, you can always call the court.

I appreciate that an order would give piece of mind, but where agreements are reached between parties without the courts intervention, there's always a possibility that the court won't agree to make an order, preferring to encourage you to work together. That's why Yoda and I suggest you think about a response to the court if this happens. It might be a good idea to prepare a very brief position statement, to explain why you feel an order is important, the fact that arrangements have fallen down in the past so having an order in place will prevent that from happening again.

With you both having reached agreement, it should be fairly straightforward and by the time of the hearing, if all is moving forward smoothly it should just be a matter of dotting the i's and crossing the t's.

Best of luck

Hello all just a update had my court case today cafcass report was no safeguarding and they support our plan went in front of a legal advisor who agreeded it was a good plan and said well done and a judge has agreed it also and got it stamped

Very very happy thanks for all the help

Well done, good to see things working out for you and hope you get to enjoy your relationship with your daughter !

That's fantastic news for you, your family and your daughter! With Christmas just around the corner it will be an extra special occasion for you all.

All the best

Hello just a update since having the order I've has contact as normal I asked for more awhile back and she said in the future
My daughter had behaviour issues when I got her back which are alot better but my ex still kicks off saying she's misbehaving for her but at ours she's perfectly fine she doesn't act out atall she's polite and generally a good kid but at the mums she's bad and she makes out its my responsibility also she barely replys to me asking questions more Contsct ect or shoots them down but the other week kept ringing and ringing saying she needed to speak to me before I can have her. The issue was my child hit her sibling so to teach her a lesson she hit her in the face. This is the mum hitting her which I don't agree on atall. Anyway I drop her back every other weekend I walk to her door ect but it's gotten to the point it's to much hassle her Street is so built up with kids and her other kid runs out ans smacks me in my private area all the time

. So I was planning on pulling outside her home and staying in my car and watching her go to the door if my ex has anything to say she can say it. The order says to drop her back that's all.

From all your advice can she stop or kick off for me pulling up outside in my car?

Also my ex has referedd herself to a parenting course to manage her behaviour and said for me to go I said no as i have her 2 a month and the issues arnt at mine

As long as you can see that she is safely inside, I can't see there is an issue - if your ex kicks up a fuss, then say that you certainly won't revert to walking her back to the door unless your ex keeps her other child under control. If your ex has hit your daughter in the face, I would warn her that it if it happens again, then you will report it to the police.

Thankyou for your reply I will try it this weekend as long as my child goes inside then I don't see a issue either if my ex has any important isssues she can address it with me in the car if she does anything further I'll bring it up she does sly things most times so it's hard to have anything concrete. But my daughter always comes dirty or some unhygienic conditions her teeth are so bad and it's because she doesn't force her to brush them she admitted to me but my daughter has started reminding herself. Thabks for your reply

Do you have a dashcam? If so, might be worth making sure it's angled to capture everything. Can't do any harm.

Hi there

Whilst smacking isnt illegal in England, it has to be proportionate with the age and size of the child. Personally i dont approve of physical punisnment at all.

I would suggest that you send an email/ tex to the mother to request that she doesn’t hit her, as a form of discipline...in the face is absolutely inappropriate.

I’d also keep a record of any incidents as they occur.

All the best