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Just an update guys.
I had my cafcass interview yesterday. It was totally different to what I was expecting. It was only 12 mins long.
Lady said she tried contacting my ex and couldn't get through so will try contacting her after my phone interview. My interview then proceeded and she asked only general and safeguarding questions about my son.
1. His ethnicity, religion, language. My ethnicity, my religion and my language
2. Asked if I have any safeguarding concerns and I said no
3. Asked if domestic abuse been feature of our relationship and I said no. Then she said well police checks show you were arrested but released and social services were involved. I explained I was arrested but denied the allegations. She then said ok if it's one off then it'll be seem as isolated incident but if we talk to your ex and she says there more than one occasion then it'll be looked in to.
4. She then asked if there was any substance abuse. I said no
5. She then asked when the last time I saw my child and I gave date and gave reason why ex not letting me see him now (because I have decided to end relationship with her)
6. She then asked if I had anything to say. I asked is that it? And she said yeah the interview is only for safeguarding concerns. Anyways i just added: childs mum is amazing mum but we just don't get on. I added I want our son to have positive relationship with both his parents and extended family and that I want to achieve a workable relationship with other parent for sake of my child. I added I want my son to be raised in a loving environment.
I don't know what to make of it. It was very short. I was expecting it to be about 40 mins and expected her to ask what I would like and how I am with my son. But she didn't.
She was going to call ex. I'm hoping that because she called me first it's good as she didn't have any questions regarding any allegations that ex could potentially have made if she was contacted before me?
Your thoughts?
hi,
yes that cafcass telephone call is very basic. with dads its a 10-20 min call. with the ex its 2 hours :p :silly:
this is only the start. they will probably want to do a section 7 report. this is when they will interview you in person, and mention any allegations the ex has made about you. dont be so concerned as to what the ex will tell them, as most of it will be hot air.
Will update you.
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