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Hi all
After a bit of advise recently started seeing my little girl again in court process ss writing section 7 due to mothers past etc socail worker asked me to propose contact agreement to her throw ides out witch I did she seemed very impressed I packed it full of detail etc went for 50/50.
However the mother wants 4 hours a week until she's 2 witch isn't until Oct to.me that seems harsh and completely unfair shes stating its because I don't know her but she ripped me out of her life and now im being punished for that.
There is a 100m distance witch I'm more than prepared to cover I fear the mother is keeping contact down to maintain her cms payments so she doesn't lose money.
How do I approach this will the courts side with me when section.7 comes back completely clean on me already had loads of positive comments from socail worker about the bond that has endured despite me being torn from her.
I want to end this ASAP I dont want court to drag on I just want fair good contact with my daughter im not interested in anything else me and the mother can't really talk and because of her abuse and socail services meditaion is not a option
Any advise or help be appreciated
hi,
I have 2 year old child and overnights are to start when she is 2 and a half. This was settled through courts. up until now I have had child stay with me for 7 hours, every other sunday. If the mother is not agreeable to overnights starting now, you can ask Cafcass about it. They may recommend nights to start when she is 2+
@bill337
I've asked for overnights 50/50 basis immediately after next court that will be 2month completed contact centre I dont see why I or my daughter should be punished with minimal contact its not in anyone's best interest
Any contact you will get will be phased. If you have been in a contact centre the next step would be unsupervised for 4-6 hours until your child is 2. It maybe once your child is 2 at some point overnights would be considered . Perhaps 1 night every weekend to start with progressing to every other weekend. Once that is running smoothly if workable you maybe able to have some form of contact midweek.
50-50 would never be considered as you live 100 miles away and once your daughter is at school/nursery it would only be possible to have every other weekend , half of holidays and special days shared due to the distance
So if im understanding you correctly my ex can stop me seeing my daughter illegally block all my contact get done for drugs child abuse and god knows what else and im only around 4 hours a week despite already raising my boy 50/50 have zero record and no socail involvement. So basicly i have to miss out on my daughter and her on a dad because my ex is twisted and chose to run off miles away and use her as a weapon just to cream cms out of me
With your ex being 100 miles away there is no way of having a 50-50 arrangement. With the 100 miles this would also impact midweek contact once your daughter starts school . Whilst shes not at school or nursery you maybe able to get some midweek contact as well as every other weekend
@warwickshire1 so in relation to miles away surely has to be done agreements in travelling as I’m gonna be in same situation further down line so for instance half way pick up drop off or I collect kids you collect kids ? Kris
it's quite common in court for both parents to try agree to do half way travel when picking up and dropping kids. but the question is if the other parent will live up to the agreement once they leave court. Travel distance will be an issue, and I don't think they will allow contact more than every other weekend. possibly every weekend if your ex agrees to it or if court social worker supports it.
@bill337 oh I will attempt for the every weekend as with location she moved too midweek is out the window there by I’m losing 4 days that I could get so by me going for every weekend only getting what I would if was having midweek.on the pick up drop off would make sure I will pick kids up she can collect that way she will collect
@Renren07
Unfortunately unless an ex partner agrees by consent dads are left majority of time having to do all drop offs and handovers.
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