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Hi,
Myself and my wife are currently going through a divorce, We had child care arrangements between us where I had our 2 year old daughter every wednesday night after nursery and then every other weekend from friday morning until sunday afternoon. she is now saying that I can only see her at a contact centre. Is she allowed to just do that or can i fight that?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Brett
Hi sa_rulez,
In short, its a yes and no answer.
It sounds to me that something has gone on which may have given Mum cause for concern. Has anything happened when you've had contact or even from when you were in a relationship that she may express as a concern when you may be alone with your daughter?
Hi Yoji thanks for the reply,
Me and the mom dont really get on anymore.....she was a half hour late for when i dropped my daughter off on sunday ( she knew she would be late but never told me)which left her sat in the car for the time which I said to her was unacceptable her new b/f has never liked me and started shouting at me and squring up to me whilst my daughter was less than a meter away from us again unacceptable...i said to him to go inside he ignored me i turned to give my daughter a kiss goodbye and her and mom walked off...her b/f then threw a couple of punches at me (i didnt responsed purly for the fact i knew if i did i would of be put down as the violent one - I have raised the matter with the police) I then got a letter on tuesday saying that they dont think its safe for her to be with me!?! me and my daughter have an amazing relationship and she is really a daddys girl and i just dont think its fair that she could just do this.
Hi Brett
First thing - keep a diary of all events and communications. You did exactly the right thing by not hitting back, and you are right as to what would probably have happened if you had. Keep all communications strictly business-like as this will probably end up in front of a judge if it goes to court. I'd chase the police up to see if they are taking any action, and keep reporting any future incidents if they occur. It's also a bit extreme, but next time it might be worth recording the event (perhaps a phone holder in the car and use your phones video recorder if it has one) so it's not their word against yours.
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