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Hello all,
So a little background first, my little boy is 4 months old, I started court proceedings for parental responsibility and contact, she has now agreed to parental responsibility and for contact at a contact centre 2 hours weekly, this was agreed 30th November and is an interim order, but contact has only just started, we had agreed between ourselves to end court with a consent order, contact centre until the end of April, then 5 hours weekly until 1 year when we would start mediation as I want overnights at 18 months her 2 years, so here are the issues:
1) since I sent the consent order in to the court asking for them to stop the process including section 7, she has moved the goal posts wanting longer in the contact centre and saying the 5 hours or must be supervised, and we will need to discuss in April (next court date is March)
2) during the first visit to the centre I arrived early to do paperwork etc I was told where to sit by the lady etc then ex walked in she is now saying I 'destroyed her trust' and did it on purpose, and lady had to tell me off, it was fine for her to stand in the doorway watching the whole of contact however. Also she said it will never be the 2 hours as he needs to feed etc, and she has refused to provide any milk (even though he is in nursery and she expresses for this)
3)she has started work but won't tell me who is looking after our baby? Do I have a right to know? How can I enforce?
So I am very worried because I don't think she has any intention of sticking to the sprit of the order, should I remove my consent? Or will this look bad? Should I wait for the next hearing and say to the judge she has failed to live up with her commitments and as she won't agree anything now we will just be back in court soon, meaning the order will be useless.
Thanks for the help
I would write to the court to explain that the agreements that you both made arent working and that several problems have arisen, that the interim contact order isn't being adhered to, that she is refusing to allow the full two hours and is present during the contact which is uncomfortable for you. Ask if it's possible for an early return to court for new directions and to have the consent order set aside.
Alternatively you can try and maintain the contact centre visits, keeping a record of what happens with times etc and bring it up in court at the next hearing in March.
Agree with the above.....things agreed are clearly not happening and would indicate that whatever she agrees to, she won't stick to.
As Mojo says, either write and ask for an earlier hearing or keep a log and bring this up at the next hearing.
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