[Solved] Concent order offer

4 weeks holiday doesn't seem like much considering that kids get 14/15 weeks total term holiday time, but I supposed you might be limited by your own professional activity.

What about the weekends, does that include overnights ?

The first thing I would focus on before trying to negotiate is to get that offer in writing. If later on the ex starts playing dirty again you can show that she was happy to those terms.

I'm very surprised that I got as far with her as it was. She was saying if she goes back to final hearing she will be bringing up.drugs and getting social services in etc. Bit of scaremongering really as I've done what courts ask and proven no all allegations are false. I think she seems to want to avoid court maybe as it might not go her way for a change.

I'm governed by my job in terms of holidays so 4 weeks is enough. The weekends will go full weekends 2 months 1 overnight then fri-sun 2 nights. The one thing she really didn't agree with was weekday overnight and so it was agreed I'd wait till he is 3 in 8 months. I'm not overly happy with that but truth is it might take a little while for him to settle so I can wait and if can avoid court then that be great as I can't predict the outcome on the weeknight.

She has emailed the agreement over to me and said she meeting solitor to draw it up and send to me.

I think if she brings drug allegations to the final hearing she would only be digging herself into a hole.

That's a pretty serious accusation. Why would she have waited for months and let the kid go unsupervised if she was truly concerned about this ?

I don't think you have much to worry about there.

If it did go to final hearing, would that be magistrates or district judge ?

I've already had drugs allegations and passed the test but she just clutching at straws. Said because I submitted underarm hair it's not accurate. Pretty embarrassing if that'd all her barrister will argue.

I think it's magistrates and has been so far. From what I hear on heat a judge seems to be better at handling things.

I've heard the same, that a good judge handles cases a lot better and you are also more likely to get the same judge across the different hearings. Did you have the same magistrates and legal advisor on every hearing, or do they keep flipping ?

I've had two different magistrates and been between two different courts but my final is listed in the same one as first hearing so I don't know if be the same magistrates or a judge. I've spoke to my ex today and she got a meeting with her solitor and they going to forward over a draft concent order but I'm approaching the dates of witness statements to be filed so we shall see.