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ex partners brother has turned up at my house last night and after a bit of row outside the front door where he wanted me to give his sister more money to me getting a better job. Obviously I told him to mind his own business and get his facts right.
He was theatening me as he kept shouting at "WATCH YOUR BACK"
After a short time he pushed me and I managed to get into the house and put the chain on ( hands where shaking ) but it wasn't on properly and he pushed the door and it broke off the wall. I managed to push the door back while he was fisting the door and hold the door handle up so the door was locked. I managed to dial 999 shaking like [censored] and he eventually went.
Police went to see him and he said that he did not threaten me, did not push me and did not damage the door - he said I did that.
Police where very helpful and I need to sign my statement when then police officer is back on shift but they will arrest him and bail him to keep him from my house.
There are a couple of neighbours that heard us shouting at each other and using swear words and saw him banging the door with his fists.
Police don't know if it will get taken further as it could just be my word against his. Mind kind of racing ahead but I suppose I should let the police do there work but think about solicitor - will I get legal aid ? and go for some kind of restraining order ?
he is a very hot headed guy worse when he has a drink and I do feel he will come for me again, He did beat up his ex girlfriends new boyfriend and I remember the police involved but they must have done a background check and couldn't find anything. I remember this because he came to our house 2am one day about 3 years ago.
Glad you're ok now - not something I'd wish to go through at all.
I'm not sure about legal aid - I would go and see the Citizen's Advice Bureau for advice on this. It may also be worth looking at your door security and speaking to the police officer. I'm not sure whether they are able to help, but I have a feeling that they sometimes recommend that the doors are changed to open outwards - that way forcing entry is much harder. At the very least, you need to change the chain for a heavy duty door guard - they are much more effective than chains.
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