[Solved] Closer to ending life

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low... is there anyone that you can get some support from, a partner, family member or close friend?

I know how hard it has been for you, and youre worried to go to your GP, but perhaps it's more important to get yourself some help right now, or you might not be able to cope with the pressure of court.

Have you called the Samaritans, it might help to talk to someone about how you're feeling, here's the number - 116 123 ....it's manned 24 hours a day. Everything you discuss is in confidence.

Also you can call CALM on - 0800 58 58 58 they're available from 5pm until midnight every day.

Try not to think too much into the future, just focus on getting through each day. Try not to be alone, be around other people that you can trust, even if you don't feel that you want to talk about what's happening inside.

It might help to think about all the positive things in your life, about your strengths and the people that need you.

Excercise can help with your mood too, or doing something that you enjoy, it will take your mind of your worries.

The most important thing is to keep talking, I'll be around on and off for the rest of the afternoon, just let me know you're ok... we want to help.

All the best

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low... is there anyone that you can get some support from, a partner, family member or close friend?

I know how hard it has been for you, and youre worried to go to your GP, but perhaps it's more important to get yourself some help right now, or you might not be able to cope with the pressure of court.

Have you called the Samaritans, it might help to talk to someone about how you're feeling, here's the number - 116 123 ....it's manned 24 hours a day. Everything you discuss is in confidence.

Also you can call CALM on - 0800 58 58 58 they're available from 5pm until midnight every day.

Try not to think too much into the future, just focus on getting through each day. Try not to be alone, be around other people that you can trust, even if you don't feel that you want to talk about what's happening inside.

It might help to think about all the positive things in your life, about your strengths and the people that need you.

Excercise can help with your mood too, or doing something that you enjoy, it will take your mind of your worries.

The most important thing is to keep talking, I'll be around on and off for the rest of the afternoon, just let me know you're ok... we want to help.
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All the best

im ok im just really down

Thanks for getting back to us... it's ok to feel down and you did the right thing opening up about it.

I really do understand what you're going through... this process can get to the strongest people and you have been on this journey for a long time.

You were so positive when you first posted about re applying, so I'm guessing that the threats of an NMO have knocked your confidence again and set you worrying about what might happen. In my experience, its best not to look into the future, stay in the here and now and deal with things as they come along... if worrying about what ifs solved anything, I'd say worry away, but it solves nothing and just makes us feel worse.

Keep talking if you feel like it, but if not try and find people that you trust, to spend time with.

All the best

Thanks for getting back to us... it's ok to feel down and you did the right thing opening up about it.

I really do understand what you're going through... this process can get to the strongest people and you have been on this journey for a long time.

You were so positive when you first posted about re applying, so I'm guessing that the threats of an NMO have knocked your confidence again and set you worrying about what might happen. In my experience, its best not to look into the future, stay in the here and now and deal with things as they come along... if worrying about what ifs solved anything, I'd say worry away, but it solves nothing and just makes us feel worse.

Keep talking if you feel like it, but if not try and find people that you trust, to spend time with.

All the best

yes it is the threat of that over my head making me worry i have never been in trouble with law apart from a pin notice in 2016 which all i did was try sort out contact with ex and since then have never been near her no text no email im just feeling so down n out and feel like im doing wrong thing trying to get access when i know they are all against me meaning cafcass ex and court...im dreading seeing cafcass officer again cause he doesnt like me and believes ex .im trying so hard to ge strong but feel so weak and drained as if im going to have a heart attack or a stroke because of the stress but court or cafcass dont care about me .

I know it can seem that everything is against you, but sometimes things can make a uturn, try and stay focussed on the reason you are doing it, that is to be in your child's life.

Try not to prejudge cafcass, I think the judge was quite supportive of your concerns at the last hearing wasn't he? Did you ask if the cafcass meeting can be recorded? That might help to make you feel less anxious about it it.

Is there anyone that can support you right now, to spend time with or just go out and do something that you enjoy... a trip to the cinema or bowling... maybe a picnic in the park, just something to take your mind off your worries.

I think we've mentioned before that attending a Families Need Fathers meeting might help you too. I'll give you a link to their website where you'll find details of their meetings, you'll meet people that are going through the same as you and just sharing problems with people that understand can be a big help.

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

Just to let you know that we care about you here.... stay strong and keep talking.

I know it can seem that everything is against you, but sometimes things can make a uturn, try and stay focussed on the reason you are doing it, that is to be in your child's life.

Try not to prejudge cafcass, I think the judge was quite supportive of your concerns at the last hearing wasn't he? Did you ask if the cafcass meeting can be recorded? That might help to make you feel less anxious about it it.

Is there anyone that can support you right now, to spend time with or just go out and do something that you enjoy... a trip to the cinema or bowling... maybe a picnic in the park, just something to take your mind off your worries.

I think we've mentioned before that attending a Families Need Fathers meeting might help you too. I'll give you a link to their website where you'll find details of their meetings, you'll meet people that are going through the same as you, and just sharing problems with people that understand can be a big help.

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

Just to let you know that we care about you here.... stay strong and keep talking.

Thank you for messaging me and sending the link.
My partners here for me but its sometimes easier talking kn here.
Im gonna have a bath and an early night and regroup tomorrow
Thanks for all thr support

That's a good idea, a relaxing bath and an early night. When you need to talk, we're here to listen.

All the best