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hi
apologies if this is the wrong section
ive posted on here before about my almost 4 year old son having various injuries in his mums cars
most recent being a second burn with an iron
anyway as a result of this injury a section 47 enquiry took place, and it was deemed that my son was to be put on a child protection plan (although the reason was risk of emotional harm due to animosity between parents) i have a formal complaint going on due to their conduct or lack of which is a seperate matter
now he is part of a child protection plan and there is a 3month review to take place soon
she is planning on going abroad in feb for 3 weeks
(my child arrangements order states she can go for upto 24 days providing i miss 1 weekend of contact and she makes the time up upon return)
the court order was drawn up before the child protection plan
I wanted to know what are the legal implications re her taking him abroad whilst he is on a child protection plan
or is it the decision of childrens services ..who are already proven to be useless ?
thanks
None as far as I'm aware... although I haven't had experience of this situation, I would have thought it would be up to the Social Worker to give her permission to go. Have you spoken to them?
I agree - the court have allowed him to be taken abroad, so if there are any restrictions, it would be Children's Services who would administer and monitor that. It would certainly be worth letting them know that this is a possibility.
ok thanks
the court order was made in august when i applied for a variation,
the mother originally wanted to go abroad for 6 weeks, and i refused. i said i would agree to 12 days which is whats deemed to be a normal holiday.
she didnt go and because she is a scrounger that is milking the welfare state for benefits and legal aid,,,,she didnt apply to court for permission because it would cost her money.
she waited for me to be faced with my problem (clash in schedule), knowing that she wouldnt agree to a solution so i would apply to court for a variation and she would raise it then get a free court hearing at my expense.
anyway the judge saw that she is being awkward and not agreeing to make up any lost time so he said she can go for up to 24 days providing i miss only 1 weekend. 2 out of 3 weekends are hers and that she is to make up lost time upon return, this is written on court order
the court order was made before my son was made part of child protection plan.
since then she has told the social worker she is going abroad who told me. and true to their corrupt nature, the social worker instead of ringing me to ask about how/why the court order was drawn up with strict instructions, and knowing full well the court order is made in the childs best interest. This corrupt social worker is putting the needs of the mother before the childs as they all do and asked me if i would let her have "a few more days". Thats when i had to tell him a) hes crossing the boundaries because his duty is to protect child and contact is nothing to do with him (which is what they usually say when fathers contact them for help). and b) he has no right to ask to change the terms of the court order especially in the mothers favour unless there is a risk to child . i also explained to him that there is a reason why the court order is made and reduced from the usual 28 days to max 24 with the added constraint of me only missing 1 weekend.
and again instead of saying "i understand" or i didnt know" or i should have checked ....his reply was "its a no then"
Thats what i mean , i will inform him of his duty re risk assessment and that there are certain protocals that need to be followed when a child that is part of a child protection plan is taken out of the county.
but i think at the next review conference they will take him off the register to make life easy for the mother.
he was put on there because i reported several concerns over 24 months all of which were ignored and brushed under the carpet by sandwell social services even when nspcc made a referal . he sustained 2 burns with an iron both on the same hand and she didnt seek medical attention either time (came to light in section 47 enquiry)
again they believed her story and put it down to accidental and went on to say that my reports are malicious and not reliable.
they put him on the register due to risk of emotional harm due to the "animosity between parents" although there was no evidence at all to back this up, i was raising my concerns backed up with evidence as any concerned father would.
during this protection plan they have visited me once to talk over things and me repeat everything from before. They have visited mother a few times ....and they say there have no concerns and they notice a good bond between mother and child.
they implemented a communication diary even though my communication is done via text and if she dont reply on text, she wont reply in the diary...but again they need to show they are being pro-active.
they implemented a "fun" calender to help my son understand that his time is split between parents and overcome the evident trauma of returning to his mother....he is too young to understand that so it didnt work,
and i told them there is a reason a 3 year old is histerical /wriggling like a fish when returning to his mother....to me indicating a fear or some trauma...but again "no cause for concern".
so in summary...even if a child was knocking on deaths door they would still be saying no cause for concern and we have noticed a good bond between mother and child
so no matter what i say or do, they wont act
If CS are not concerned and suggesting you vary the terms of the order and you have significant concerns, I suggest you take the matter back to the court. Otherwise, you cannot prevent her going away.
If you are unhappy with your SW, then I think you need to speak to their superior or follow official complaint procedures.
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