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Today I was visiting my grand mother as I do every Sunday, there is a park nearby which I always take my daughters into. As I was in this park today I saw my two year old son. At first I had to blink amd rub my eyes to make sure I wasn't seeing things but it was my son. I looked around for his mother but me and my partner were the only adults in the park. My son appeared to be in the park with a girl who must have been 6 or 7. It soon became clear there was no adult supervising my child and indeed this other child. My natural reaction was to make sure my son was safe but cos of all this court stuff I walked away. My partner and mother remained to make sure the children were safe. My child stayed in the park for about half hour until this little girl led him out of the park and down the road into a nearby house where my ex partners new partners car was parked outside.
I am going absolutly crazy and out of my mind, anything could have happened to my child. I don't know what to do I have emailed my solicitor but doubt anyone is going to believe me.
I am disgusted that my child was left unattened, I have all sorts of scenarios running through my head. It was only by chance I saw this today, what the [censored] happens on a daily basis?
Really you should have just called the police and they would have made a report about it and probably taken the children back to the house where the little girl went and spoken to them about it. There's not a lot you can do after the event.
Perhaps your solicitor will write a letter to the mother about this, and maybe your partner and mother could make a witness statement to send to the court.
It's never ending for you at the moment isn't it Dec...x
With hindsight I would have called them without a doubt, in that moment it was the last place I expected my child to be as it is ten miles away from where my child lives. My instant reaction was I need to get out of here as if ex sees me shes going to report me for harassment or something. When I saw she wasnt there or indeed there was no adults there instead of doing what a normal parent would do I was more concerned about being accused of kidnapping my child or something. I have spoke to my solicitor today and the advice she gave me was to inform social services. She said she is leaving the decision up to me but that's her advice. I got a split mind here, on one hand if I phone SS at least I have made my concerns known and in future his mother will most likely not leave him in a park on his own so he will sort of be 'safe' but on the other hand I feel but if I report it then my ex is going to play the harassment card once again that always seems to get her off of the hook. One stand out thing is in my ex's psycriatric report it says "childs needs may not be met and may be neglected as mother is consumed by her own needs" your right it is never ending. I'm trying to sit back and enjoy the summer holidays with my elder children and enjoy the pregnancy but every day there is something. My ex has once again completely denied contacting me the other week and her solicitor has demanded the recording. Would love to be a fly on the wall when I produce the recording. Her solicitor is finally going to realise my ex hasbeen feeding them [censored] for two years and I have been tellingthe truth. I spoke to Cafcass last week and the officer said she will be in touch with me in November to arrange a visit to my home so I see that as a very positive step and think contact is pretty much nailed on so I don't really want to have to rock the boat. I spoke to my solicitor today and she feels in a years time I will have a shot at residency as she doubts my ex is going to comply with any orders and well it is the same judge who switched residency of my partners child.
Out of interest when you say ring the police, are you saying 999 call ?
I involved the police (a long time ago) - I found the number for the local police station and rang that (sometimes it's a central switchboard that will put you through to the local police). These days, you could dial 101.
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