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Hi im hoping someone can help with some information. My partenr has been separated from his ex for just over 2 years. They are not divorced as yet. Since their separation she intitally agreed to him having the children (age 4&9 now) for 2 overnights on the condition that they did not see me. he did agree to this and finally 1 year later he introduced them to me must to her dislike and she therefore withheld contact. he initiated mediation which she finally agreed to (after many solicitors letters and excuses not to attend) they had 6 sessions which he paid for and finally contact was reinstated as to what it originally was. Since then she has constantly telephoned, text messages etc just because she wants contact with him, if he doesnt andwer she takes the hump and tries to make things difficult, therefore putting a strain in our relationship. He knows and is too scared not to answer her as she would find some reason to withhold contact. overall she just wants him back and will do anything to make things difficult for us in order to break us up. Fast forward to now (just over 2 years after their separation) Me and him had an argument (about her) got a bit out of hand and i telephoned the police. There were no cautions or charges or action taken. The police saw it as a donestic argument. End of situation and our relationship. We separated for 2 weeks during which time she was wuite happy for him to have the children extra and was his best friend. That was until we both decided to get back together. We have a 7month old baby aswell. Since we got back together she has now stopped contact. Sent a solicitor letter saying that she feel our relationship is not stable etc and that she doesnt want her children to witness any arguments. We have never argued infront of the children and none of the children including our own where present when that particular argument happened. Its an excuse for her as she thought he was going to go back to her and has now realised thats not going to happen. So no contact. He has written a letter back to her solicitor asking fir contact to be reinstated immediately. At present has had no reply. He has again contacted the mediation centre but holds out very little hope of it being sorted out through mediation and does not want to go down the route of several sessions again and ultimately even if it is sorted will result in at some point in the future being wihheld again. He cannot afford a solicitor and plans to self represent in court. The only way he can safeguard his contact in the long term without being constantly threatened. The children are missing out meantime on contact they enjoyed and were used to aswell as spending time with their sibling. (who she refers to as 'that [censored] child' who is 'no sister of theirs') The children ar constantly terrified of returning home to her knowing the interrogation they will receive. She has even went so far as sending a solicitors letter to my partners father and step mother stating they are to have no contact with the children. This is because they have a relationship with me, however she states that his step mother harrasses her in the school playground because she speaks to the children when she has said they are not to talk to her when she is there. His stepmother is a registered child minder who used to look after the children until she stopped this because they speak to me. Anyway just lookong for advise on how to write the writ and what it should include and any info on the process. I have spoken to the child law centre scotland who advised this website for information. Thanks in advance for any info anyone can give.
Hi
it's worth contacting Families Need Fathers in Scotland, you might be able to attend one of their group meetings or get advice from them too
Although English and Scottish law differ in the family court, the principles of self repping remain the same and there is a lot of info in the stickies at the top of our Legal Eagle section.
Unfortunately, I don't think you will get much progression on these matters without a court order at this stage.
Good luck and welcome to the forum
I'm sorry I can't get the link to FNF Scotland website to post. I don't think our system likes the web address.
...I've just tried to post a couple of links and the system spat them back. Too!
If you google FNF Scotland you'll find the website, just follow the links to find more info about meetings in your area with contact details.
The other organisation that maybe helpful to you is The Scottish Childrens Legal Centre or sclc.
Best of luck
Here's a link to a previous post that you might find helpful
http://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/44827-residence-order-scotland#69826
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