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Very long story, so i'll summarise:
- Long history of Mum's drug use and DV.
- LA have been involved for around 2 years
- Mum hasn't sustained improvement
- LA will be seeking a SGO for the other children, to live with maternal Nan
- I've had a private court case to gain a Child Arrangements order and to get PR (PR is now sorted)
- Daughter is living with me on an interim order and acesss is supervised by maternal Nan, 2 days a week
- We're up to the first dispute hearing
- LA met with me yesterday to tell me that they've been instructed to try and produce the terms of the Child Arrangements Order
- They want Mum to have overnight, unsupervised contact, as they feel Mum is doing better
- It was only 2 weeks ago when Mum's door was put through and drugs were seized at the property
- I don't think it's a good idea yet, but they don't seem concerned about the recent police involvement
I have no idea what to do. I've done some research and looked into a Reintergration Plan, which seems like a sensible route. I don't know they work properly, but I imagine the LA are going to say that this is what the safety plan has been doing. From what I understand, although they are similar, they are fundamentally different too.
I do want my daughter to spend quality time with her Mum. However, i'm not seeing the improvement that the LA are seeing.
My daughter was just getting settled, there's been no tears for a while and she's improving in every way... stressed isn't the word. Any help greatly appreciated.
Hi,
I think it's better to work with LA. Later if theres any incidents/safeguarding concerns then you could suspend the contact with childs mum and ask LA to investigate
LA seem very keen lately to give the absent parent more contact than the live with parent would wish. Its difficult to go against them. You don't say how old your daughter is but is she old enough for a phone with an alarm on it if she feels unsafe? Or even just a phone so she can call you?
Thanks both.
Daughter is 10. The issue i've got is that earlier on, Mum specifically asked my daughter not to lie. I worry she would do the same. When you say alarm, what do you mean?
I was thinking of an alarm on a phone. There is HollieGuard but that gives off a loud noise when the phone is shaken and contacts you so you know she has a problem. I wonder if there is something else so you can be called without mum being aware? Thats if you're happy for your daughter to have a phone of course. If not there are personal alarms should she feel unsafe although you may not like that idea either.
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