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Hi there
I am new to the forum so apologies if this is a topic which has been covered before
i am divorced and have 2 children under 10 years old
i have the children each weekend on a Friday night and they are collected on Saturday afternoon by their mother
Sometimes the children stay on Saturday night as well
All of this is wonderful but the children's mother refuses to allow me to allow the children to see my parents and other members of my family
This state of affairs is distressing as both the children and i want them to see my parents
i am sure the that the time i spend with my children should be mine to decide who they see
Is my understanding correct?
Are there any caveats to my being able to involve my children in seeing my parents and family?
Hi there
Its such a pity the mother is being so inflexible, but you’re right and generally what you do with your children during the time they spend with you, is up to you!
Unfortunately, the mother can do more or less what she likes, unless there’s a court order in place. If you decide to go ahead with visits to your wider family, she may try and stop contact, so I’d be careful how you approach this.
It might be useful to attempt mediation to try and sort it out. Mediation is a requirement before a court application can be made and if you can’t reach agreement, the mediator will sign the forms to allow you to apply to court for a Child Arrangements Order for contact and to deal with the situation with your family.
Its not necessary to have a solicitor to do this, many dads here have managed well without and we would do all we can to advise and support you through the process.
All the best
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