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Hi all, I recently split with my partner around a year ago today, and now all of a sudden she won't let me have any access with my children , she says it is due too their welfare when they are with me however I know this isn't true as I have always had them since we split, but now she has slowly taken more control over them giving me very petty reasons containing no proof as too why she has eventually stopped my contact , also money is a big issue as she keeps constantly wanting more, too the point that I am financly stuck and I already happily pay over the maintenence that was calculated for my children, how do I get her too see that all I want is the best for our children? Or do I have too go to mediation and sort it through them, I'm desperate too see them before/ over the holidays
If you can't come to any arrangement that suits you all, then the only thing you can do is to start mediation, and hope that sorts it out, but if not, then you need to be prepared to go to court, and that things may well get worse before they get better.
With regards to the maintenance, it may be worth you considering opeing a case yourself with the CMS to get them to do the calculation officially, and then you are obliged to pay nothing more.
Hi there
Perhaps a letter to her to remind her that it's the children's right to have both parents involved in their lives, that love is unconditional and by denying contact, it is the children that are being hurt the most. Massage her ego a bit (if you can!) tell her she's a great mum and hopefully, once she's thought about the impact not seeing you is having on the children, particularly at this time of year, she will change her mind. You could also mention mediation in the letter and the fact that you need to work together as parents in the best interests of your children.
All the best
HI There,
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I agree to writting her a letter appealing to her better nature to reconsider, as already said mention that you are prepared to go through mediation and then court if needed, but don't use this like a stick, try and slip it in to the letter in a way that isn't confrontational, mayve something like.......
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"I am hoping that we can come to an agreement so that we can avoid having to use mediation and court"
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I also agree that maybe it is time to go through CMS, you would be able to open the case for £20 and then they would tell you what you would need to pay and help you to arrange a direct payment to your ex via bank transfer, this would remove the issue of her asking for more money as you aren't liable to pay anything else, that said it doesn't stop you paying over what is said, but you always have the CMS paper work to fall back on if and when she starts asking for more and you aren't happy or can't afford to pay it.
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