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Hi all could do with some guidance. My ex and I are still married but split 3yrs. We have 2 kids who are 3 & 8. She also has a further 3 foster\ guardian kids on a long term basis. We both work full time.
All the kids are in the same school. I have my kids 4 nights every week (Fri,Sat,Sun,Wed) with a court order in place. I do schools runs 2 mornings and 2 afternoons a week she does the others as we all live within 10 mins of school and each other.
She claims child benefit which I'm told I'm entitled to and I don't claim CSa which again I'm told I'm entitled to.
After all that my question is, I've found out she's put her house on the market . Does she need my consent to move them schools? She literally uses a friend 40 mins away to have the foster kids when my kids are with me and uses them to keep my kids entertained when she has them. We've had social services involved hence my court order. So I'm worried she wants to move nearer her friend claiming that's where her support is but mainly to try and drive a wedge between my kids and I.
Thanks in advance for any help and advice.
This was something that was brought up in the court couple of days ago, when the mother of my daughter indicated, she wanted to remove our daughter from her school. This was something, I strongly opposed, challenged and the Judge agreed, as it was a matter of parental responsibilities. One parent cannot change school without the permission of the other one.
Thanks for the positive response. Did you oppose the change on any grounds ?
Hi there
It can be more difficult than Amir indicates...she could move and only tell you once it has happened, which would make it more difficult to reverse the situation.
What does your order state in respect of who the children live with?
As you have the children more than 50% of the time, you are as you say entitled to claim child benefit, tax credits and maintenance from the mother, but aside from the financial aspect of having these benefits in your name, having this also backs up your position as primary carer of your children, which is important, especially in situations where you think she is intending to relocate.
If you are concerned, you can apply for an urgent Prohibited Steps Order to try and prevent the move, at the very leas it would delay things, but as you are the primary carer it would serve to consolidate your position.
I've deleted your other duplicate post...it's best not to post the same topic more than once, if conversations get started on both it can get confusing.
The order says " live with" and the days stated
Does it also say lives with the mother on said days? I'm just trying to ascertain whether it's an order that gives you sole residence, or whether it's shared residence, meaning that the children live with you both.
Mojo has given you good advice but you do need to clarify what the order lays out in terms of living arrangements for you both. If the matter is of significant concern, then I would advise making an urgent application.
Thanks. I need to dig it out but if memory serves it says Lives with father wed to Thurs and Fri after school to Mon morning Lives with mother Mon to Tues & Thurs to Fri.
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