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Hi,
Asking for a bit of advice please.
I have a family arragments order setting out shared care been in place over a year.
Long story short, i have approached ex asking if our son can reside with me moree-6 nights less with her 3nights.
She initially said yes as wants our son happy, she told our son this would be happening...but 3 weeks on she has refused to discuss.
She wants to spk with her solicitor which i understand...however not made any attempts to do this yet.
My question is, how can i move this forward? Can i contact her solicitor?
We did agree to settle out of court, she has said to our 9 year old she doesnt trust me.
She initally told him it will happen in a month time, now saying 2 months. He is confused as am i and really im looking for answers.
Thanks
The problem I can see with contacting her solicitor is that it might make your ex dig her heels in and nothing will change. I think it's still best trying to discuss this with your ex directly (can you arrange to go for a coffee, take her for a meal, or something like that?) rather than going down the official route just yet.
...I have a quick read through your previous posts and I see that you have a CAO contact order which states that you are to have your son 12-14 nights a month, two weeks for holidays and shared Xmas and birthdays. Is this the status quo currently?
Have you thought about trying mediation to try and sort this out? This is more formal than writing to her or trying to sort it out between yourselves. It might help to make her realise that you are serious about moving this forward and are prepared to do what it takes to resolve it.
Good luck
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