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So my court order says my son lives with myself, his maternal grandmother and mother.. (Who are meant to live together 20 min away from me)
he lives with me from 6pm sunday to end of school friday 3pm
were he will be collected by grandmother and returned at 6pm to myself sunday..
the whole court was a joke as his mother lied saying she lived with grandmother and they would both raise him etc.. but this wasnt the case grandmother was drinking and mother was living 2 hours away.
so also in the court order it states we will all be flexibile and share holidays,
I had my son for 3 weeks were he was collected weekends as usual.
now its turning into the mother and grandmother having him for 3 weeks the mother is expecting me to drive the 2hrs to were she lives and the 2hrs back on a friday after work, which would mean my son who is 6 will not be home till 10pm.
The court order states that mother will be taking my son 2hrs away on occasions due to work commitments... but does not mention he will be living there...
I need help as I have offered to collect him from grandmothers (20 min away) and return to mothers 2hrs on the sunday for next 3 weeks but she is refusing.
I dont see how this is fair that she moves and is no mention of this in court order.
Any advice is this a breach or?
Hi there
It's a difficult situation, it might be worth paying a solicitor to write to them formally to spell out that you are not ordered to do 4hours travelling to facilitate contact, that you are willing to drop off and pick up from the grandmothers, but the rest of the travelling is her responsibility. If she is unhappy with this then she should seek a variation of the order.
If you dont want to use a solicitor, you could write the letter yourself and also suggest that mediation could be used to try and sort this out, to avoid a return to court. Refer back to the order, the fact that the visits to where she works are occasional as far as the order is concerned.
All,the best
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