[Solved] Can't even find her!

Hey dude,

Sorry to hear your in the position you are, you've certainly come to the right place there's no end of people who will be able to help you out, I can't give you advice on finding your child but it can be done with a bit of leg work.

The lady who can advise you better is Nanny Jane and I'm sure she will point you in the direction once she pick up this thread.

Don't worry about not having the money for a solicitor you can as a lot of dads on here is self rep, it's relatively inexpensive and dads have got some real good out comes.

Keep your chin up mate

Slim

Thanks I just have no idea what to do or how to find her
I have thought about either calling her bluff and contacting csa saying I have my suspicions I'm not the dad as maybe this will bring her out of hiding to keep the money coming in

Or asking a family member to send a letter to the last address saying they are writing their will and would like to put my daughter in the will.
What do you think . From reading other posts it shows so many dads want to be involved and do the right thing.
As my daughter is only 2 and my name is on the birth certificate am I right in thinking her mother can not change my daughters surname and once she has started school I will be able to with PR's keep up to date with her education with access to her school reports.
Thanks again in advance

You could apply for a seek and find order perhaps?

http://www.thecustodyminefield.com/mobile/domesticabduction.html#/mobile/seekandfindorders.html

Regards,

Dave

Hi there

You have PR as you are named on the birth certificate. This does entitle you to certain rights, such as progress reports, to be consulted about education and health, but not contact unfortunately. You are right too, she would need your permission to change her name, although some mothers do this without getting permission.

Dave has provided you with a link to info about Seek and Find Orders...you will need form C4 to apply for this and form C100 to apply for contact.

As you haven't had contact for so long, the court will want to have background checks/reports done. It will be a slow process and if you are successful then contact will be supervised for a period of time...this to allow you to establish a bond with her. It's not going to be easy and depending on where she is then the case is likely to be moved to her area once they've found her. Prepare yourself for allegations from the mother, a tactic too often used to deny contact.

Many dads here are self representing with a good degree of success, you'll find plenty of info about the court process at the top of the legal eagle section and lots of people here willing to advise and support you.

Thank you.
It isn't for the want of trying to have had contact but my ex partner seems very happy to receive money and NOT even let myself or my family ( in case she doesn't want to speak directly to me) know even the area they are living in.

Well if you get the ball rolling on this, she will soon have to realise you do have some rights ...at the end of the day though this is about your daughters right to have both parents involved in her life. She is missing out on enriching relationships, not just with you but with the whole paternal side of her family.

You are so right will have a chat with my family and mull over my options I only want the best for my daughter .