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Can anybody help? I was together with my wife for 19 years we have 2 children girl 16 and boy 11. We always had a amazing relationship but 5 weeks ago she said she wasn't sure if she loved and wanted to be with me anymore. I was devestated . She asked for some space so because I love n adore her I stayed with a mate close by and she asked for no contact to see how she feels. 6 days ago she told me it's completely over she doesn't love or want to be Married she was nice about to begin with. I was heart broken and willing to do anything. She said to me to pack a bag and move out. I said no its my home my children my life this isn't what I want and I've stayed put. Which is so hard and akward being around her. Then she got nasty for a few days after. We both said some stupid stuff tbh.
We are in a secure joint tenceny council house. I work 4 days week 35 hour week and pay all bills food car ect.. and get to spend alot of time with kids. she occasionally does part time work. We got into a argument few days ago resulting in her punching me the face and repeatedly kicking me. I didn't touch her back n never would!. Then yesterday again she got angry and went to punch me again. She has bipolar so her moods are severe sometimes up n down. I've always protected the kids and her from the way she is sometimes. I'm a very much hands on dad and very close to them I probably do 80% of housework n keep house running. Sorry just trying to give u a picture of my life which I love by the way but She is being unreasonable and wont come up with a solution that's fair on us both and children. She is now going to see a solicitor tommow morning to file for divorce and have me removed from house. Can she do that?
I've always given her what she wants and now I'm refusing to leave my children n family home. she isn't getting what she wants so is turning nasty I'm scared il lose my children n home. Work have said I can do reduced accommodated shifts to fit in around children. What can I do to stay with them?
Thanks for listening
Speaking from experience, yes she can have you removed from the house if she puts in for a occupation order and non-molestation order. This is what my ex did to me. She made up false allegations, stating I was verbally abusing and she was frightened of me as I'd threatened her. It was all a pile of rubbish, if anyone was abusive it was her.
The first I knew of it was a letter being served to me at work that gave me 48 hours to clear my thing from the house and move out or be in breach of a court order, facing possible arrest.
I did move out and slept on friends sofa's and in motels until I found a rental. In the meantime, she sold all my high value possessions that she could. Seems there isn't much I can do about that now.
She stopped me seeing my kids for about 5 months, and then only let me see them Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon every other week.
I wish you the best of luck, for warned is for armed. Tread carefully.
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