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Morning i am ibrar i am new here i have a son who is 10 years old i have acess to him monday to friday from16:30 to 19:30 and every other weekend and half the school holidays.his mum wants to move to another area and a different seconday school but my son doesnt want to move from the area because he lives 5 minutes from me and he has his heart set on a secondary school here and he want to live with me full time he is very stressed as i am
Hi ibrar,
Have you tried talking to his mum about this? I would do this when your son is not present, as there's no point in upsetting him more than is neccassary. I would also be careful about telling her that he wants to be with you full time, she might limit your access.... Children in this situation often tell each parent what they think both want to hear. I'm not saying this is the case but it is possible. Its a very difficult situation for you, but it will be even harder for your little boy, he is the most important person in all of this and you must both tread very carefully with him.
It looks like you get on with the mum to a degree, as you have sorted out a good amount of contact... she is acknowledging your importance as dad by enabling this to happen. I'm hoping therefore, that you will be able to sit down and talk it through with her.
If you are not able to reach any agreement by yourselves then you could try Mediation. You would both attend at an allotted time and with the help of a trained Mediator, talk through all the issues, and hopefully find some common ground.
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