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My child has disclosed the following:
- not allowed to talk about me at his mother's house
-being told I'm not his father and to not call me dad
- being told his name is not his legal name (my surname)
- numerous other negative things about me
-any toys he wishes to take home are discarded if I've bought them.
Is there anything I can do from a legal standpoint. This is blatant mental abuse and it's effecting my son. But I don't know if I'm wasting my time in the context of court.
I would advise to keep gathering evidence and then contact CAFCASS.
This is parental alienation and a form of abuse. There is various information about this on the internet but I don't have a particular site to recommend. I suggest you speak to the school and tell them whats going on. You could also report it to social services but school will be a good start. Keep a diary of what your son tells you so you have a record of it
hi,
are you going through any court proceedings at the moment?
hi,
are you going through any court proceedings at the moment?
Hi, no not currently. We've recently finished court proceedings and I have an order for contact, to which the alienation has ramped up seemingly as my son goes home speaking positively about time with me.
Thanks for the replies, would school contact be a good idea as others have suggested?
hi,
I would suggest you contact your local childrens service and speak to them about these issues. you could ask for a reference number and who you spoke to. In case you return to court in future, you can use this information as evidence. Am not sure about discussing these things at school. Are you able to pass your contact details to them and be involved in parents evenings/academic review? if they have any concerns then they would likely mention them to you.
Hello I seem to be going through the same thing I have my son every other weekend in line with the court order. Recently I recieved a text from his mother saying all contact is stopped I asked why but there was no response. A week later I was contacted by social services and just after that the police arrested me as my son and his mother are claiming that I physically abused him.there is no evidence and I would appreciate any advice
hi,
sorry to hear. sounds like you need to take this back to court. could use C2 form to seek urgent hearing, as mother suspended contact, claiming there is risk of harm.
Hi guys, just an update on this.
Cafcass confirmed the points in the OP, in interviews with my child, but absolutely nothing was done about it.
Now I've had time to reflect, I don't know what I expected could be done, as the court can't police someone's words or actions, other than ensuring they make the child available for contact, which they've done.
I'm sure this is not what others are hoping to hear, as we all know it's wrong and incredibly damaging for our children. Only thing we can do is be the best dad we can be when our children are with us to help them deal with the other parents shortcomings.
@logical60 I suggest you contact Dad's Unlimited which may be able to help you through the process. Website is dadsunltd.org.uk and there is a helpline
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