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My child has disclosed the following:
- not allowed to talk about me at his mother's house
-being told I'm not his father and to not call me dad
- being told his name is not his legal name (my surname)
- numerous other negative things about me
-any toys he wishes to take home are discarded if I've bought them.
Is there anything I can do from a legal standpoint. This is blatant mental abuse and it's effecting my son. But I don't know if I'm wasting my time in the context of court.
I would advise to keep gathering evidence and then contact CAFCASS.
This is parental alienation and a form of abuse. There is various information about this on the internet but I don't have a particular site to recommend. I suggest you speak to the school and tell them whats going on. You could also report it to social services but school will be a good start. Keep a diary of what your son tells you so you have a record of it
hi,
are you going through any court proceedings at the moment?
hi,
are you going through any court proceedings at the moment?
Hi, no not currently. We've recently finished court proceedings and I have an order for contact, to which the alienation has ramped up seemingly as my son goes home speaking positively about time with me.
Thanks for the replies, would school contact be a good idea as others have suggested?
hi,
I would suggest you contact your local childrens service and speak to them about these issues. you could ask for a reference number and who you spoke to. In case you return to court in future, you can use this information as evidence. Am not sure about discussing these things at school. Are you able to pass your contact details to them and be involved in parents evenings/academic review? if they have any concerns then they would likely mention them to you.
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