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3 months back, I lived in Spain with my (now ex) and three kids (3, 5, 9). One day, I came back and she had taken the kids back to BG (she is Bulgarian). She had emptied my bank accounts and given the car to some fool. It took me over 1 month to get the car back, sell it and get to Bulgaria. Meanwhile, she had left the country with my kids illegally and so was stopped at the Croatian border. They lived in hotels for that month running up bills of 6k EUR until I could get to Bulgaria and sign a paper so that she can enter the country.
I now live on her brother's sofa. I have a job starting soon so that should help. She lives on the Greek boarder (6 hours away). She has moved in with her latest fling with my kids. They are gutted (as am I) because their mother simply cannot show them affection. That has always been my area.
My eldest son is not my biological son but I am all he knows as a father. Now she is saying she wants to introduce my boy to his biological dad (he hs just got out of prison for nazi related crimes - a real choice man). My son has said he really doesn't want to meet this man but she seems to be ignoring him (as always). The other two are mine. The middle boy was born in Bulgaria and my daughter was born in the Ukraine.
I’m lost. She is making it harder and harder to see the kids and is now saying I cannot come to see them anymore. The last time I saw them was last weekend and they are broken. I m fighting the pain daily and I know that my kids are too.
Does anyone have experience in this? Does anyone know of any aid I can get here in Bulgaria? Does anyone know what I should do next? ANY advice or support will be welcomed. It is hard to think clearly as I am so alone here.
Thanks
Hi and welcome to the forum.
I'm afraid all I can suggest is that you need to get some legal assistance where you are because I can't see that the UK laws or courts are going to be any help to you at all. Does Bulgaria have anything at all equivalent to our Citizens Advice Bureau?
H Actd,
Thanks.
I don't believe they do have a Citizens Advice Bureau but I am looking.
Cheers
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