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Hi all,
I have been in a paternity test battle for quite some time now with a woman in a different country. I had a one night stand and never saw her again, she told me soon after that she was pregnant and that it could only be mine but as I used protection I was sceptical.
It had been a very difficult time going through this as she would refuse to accept a dna test that would be done overseas and mailed in, even though this was still a court admissible test and insisted I flew to her so she could be sure I would not cheat the test. I didn’t want to waste the time flying over and said that if she wanted to take it to court then she would be welcome to but she would drag out the process which I didn’t want to make take even longer.
I ended up travelling to her country, I paid for the test, went to a clinic of her choosing that had been checked by my GP and was also court admissible. I did the test in front of her. The clinician even took multiple swabs to make sure there could be no mistake for the mothers own reassurance. The mother even took swabs for the test.
The results came back NEGATIVE to show that I was not the father. She disputed this with ridiculous accusations but the clinic showed their proof and procedure that there had been no possible tampering or mix up in the samples. She carried on disputing this but I told her that if she wanted to take the legal route it would have to be with the clinic not me, Which she said she would.
I haven’t heard from her until recently she has been back in contact saying she will be taking me to court and forcing a second test.
I want to put this all behind me and move on with my life, I’m certain I am not the father and have court admissible results to prove it. Can she really have a second test forced on me or is it clutching at straws at this point?
Thank you.
May be worth having a legal consultation, but my gut feeling is that you now ignore it, unless a court orders otherwise, and even then, I'd send the original test result to make sure they are aware of it. But, I would definitely seek legal advice to make sure you don't get caught out by ignoring too much.
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