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I suppose the answer would be yes, perhaps. This sort of instruction could be included in an order, but it's entirely down to the judge n the day.
My knowledge on the legal side is limited, but my impression was that medical and educational information can be obtained directly from the schools and GP. I don't think anyone can be forced to speak to anyone else, i.e., if my ex does not wish to speak to me, that is her right to do so, I'm somewhat dubious that a court order for her to send me information is enforceable.
In my experience, GP surgeries and and nurseries will make the information available, but it helps if I approach them nicely, determined but not confrontational, i.e., approach with a smile, make it absolutely obvious that you are not gonna back down, but don't start threatening legal action straight away either.
RIts better to approach the various agencies directly, as superprouddad mentions, but I have known an order to contain directions of this kind, although not commonly.
Perhaps you need to use one of the template letters and write to the school more formally. They have a duty to keep you informed if you have PR.
KMAC - i got the judge to include a section stating that i am to receive regular updates from school and from the ex.....however it was worded pretty much that, no specifics as to a specific number/times etc... based on that the school won't give me anything more regular than the parent teachers evening (once a year) however i've just had it clarified by the school that i am more than welcome to arrange to meet with my childs teacher at a mutually agreeable time to discuss any concerns i have over my childs schooling.
as has been said previously....approach school as a parent looking to ensure you are kept up to date with how your kids are doing in school and if there are anything you should be aware of with regards to schooling matters....are they doing well or struggling in some areas....are they interacting well with other kids or not, are they being bullied or bullying others etc...
i made an appointment to see the head after a few ignored emails, i took my court order and childs birth certificate as well as my ID to get school to talk to me.
they had to seek guidance from their governers/legal team as they'd never had to deal with somehting like this before (so they said) but once it was sorted i found very little resistance from them and now to discuss things.
although i'm not getting regular reports, just an annual one, but i can ask childs teacher occassionally for updates if i need to.
i got nothing from the ex until this last month after she was told in court to keep me informed of any significant event in my childs life....and that is written in the last directions order....however i need to ensure it is kept in any final order that gets made otherwise it'll not happen.
I would agree with the above.
Schools are a little slow on the uptake regarding separated parents but it is the best route as the information is first had.
I have also experienced a block on the GP talking to me, this was lifted with the court order proving my PR. Again first had information was more valuable as key information was missing from the ex.
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