[Solved] Calling some one else Dad? devasted

I think your solicitor is probably best placed to advise on how to deal with him taking your daughter anywhere.

What does your daughter call you, as a matter of interest.

When I split up with my children's mother, and then got together with someone else, I never tried to get them to call her mum, and even after I got custody of the children, I always referred to their mother as mum (even though she always called be by name when she had contact with them) and they called my new wife by her name. This actually irked the children a bit, as they didn't get on with their mother at all, and calling her mum was a reminder to them that they really wished she wasn't their natural mother. They always bought mothers day cards for my new wife and not always for their natural mother.

Although this sounds bad, the reason they felt like this was because their natural mother treated them appallingly, whereas my new wife accepted them as part of the family and treated them much the same as her own. If their natural mother had been at least pleasant to them, they would have been far more willing to call her mum. Later on, my older daughter started calling me by my first name, as that's what her friends referred to me as, and as there was no disrespect intended, I never objected - now she interchanges my first name with dad as the occasion suits and we have a brilliant relationship, and always have.

The point of this is that what your daughter calls anyone is almost irrelevant, if she is having a good time with you when she's with you, then she knows who you are and what you mean to each other. If she's going places with your ex's ex, then if she's having a good time, isn't that what you'd really want for her to have? And she's with his kids as well, who presumably she is friends with. As long as you show her how much she means to you, she won't forget who her real dad is, irrespective of what label she gives to someone else.

The whole point of what I am saying is not just the fact of calling someone else Dad. Its the whole scenario of my daughter not having contact with me and neither did she have contact with her mums ex or his girlfriend and children whilst she was having contact with me..
It was drilled into methat she didn't see him and my daughter told me I don't even see him and I would never go anywhere with him.
What is upsetting me is that her mum has let her go somewhere with him and his girlfriend and her family without her mum present and she Is in the "family" scenario which is in turn messing with her head.
My daughter has always called me dad but told me when I was having contact with her that her mum told her not to ever call me dad not even dad and my first name together. She also told her that this other man was her dad because he brought her up etc.
My daughter is currently saying she wants to have nothing to do with me......This has came out of the blue as our relationship over the last 2 and a half years has grew in strength but now suddernly because me and her mum had a disagreement all kinds of lies and allegations were made against me which has now like I mentioened has lead up to this final hearing.

My daughter has been emotionally harmed contiunoulsy by her mother by her contstant stopping and starting of contact and with introducing a lot of new people into her life very quickly some which have turned out to be criminals or have now got agreements made by social services for my daughter to not see certains people.

No wonder my daughter is saying she doesn't want to see me when she is being made to pretend and believe she has a happy family and is doing almost everything she can to prove to her mum she hates me just to make her mother happy.

That's fair comment, apologies if I seemed to make light of it, it wasn't intended.