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the mother was making allegations against me to cafcass. she also sent cafcass all the allegations and bundle of the fact finding against me. however the fact finding was dropped against me and nothing proven.
is it not cheeky that my ex and her solictor sent cafcass the fact finding bundle even when no charges were found of any sort against me, could this influence cafcass against me. the court order did say however cafcass are to proceed to doing a section 7 on the basis no facts were found.
cafcass also send theres alot of hostility and they want us to attend some mediation course, which i replied i would love to do but i cant delay any of the court dates book. however we could run the mediation before, during or after the court dates.
what do i do if my ex has influenced cafcass with all the allegations and they write against me?
cafcass will interview you as part of section 7 report. would recommend you go to their website and complete parenting plan. mention to them and they will likely ask to see it. cafcass get a copy of court order etc so them receiving bundle would not be a big deal. I sent cafcass my position statement, to help them see exactly what kind of arrangements I was seeking. They also told me usually there is a delay in them getting court order paperwork so happy that I sent it to them early.
if fact finding goes in your favour, then in theory you should have much easier time in court. moving closer to your kids would mean your able to do school runs so possible for you to get more time with your kids like, mid-week overnights or extended weekends etc. it's possible to get close to 50/50, if your work is flexible enough.
thanks for replies. ive done the cafcass parenting course before it was suggested. i also did some first aid courses for kids, and one on nutrition. this was all off my own back.
even when i was placed in contact centre (i was accused of being alcoholic, and the DNA results all came back fine, and below all the readings) i was seeing the kids every weekend at contact centre. After the fact finding, the ex said i should only see kids for 3 hrs on the weekend, but the judge after reading my contact centre reports said she had no concerns over my contact with kids and gave me 7 hrs on weekend. But ex refused overnight stays and my barrister said not to push it just yet till later. The ex also said i should do drop offs and pickups, but i asked for this to be shared, and the judge agreed with me.
Now in my eyes all the hostility is coming from the ex, however cafcass said its coming from both of us. i dont know why they said this as i remained child focussed. The ex sent all the fact finding bundle to cafcass as kept slandering me to cafcass. I remained child focussed however to cafcass, so maybe after reading her allegations again cafcass blamed hostility on me to. but the court order said cafcass are to proceed on the basis no facts were proven.
The ex now knows i want 50/50 and shes fuming, the cafcass mediation course they are recommending is apparently some new trial thing they are running, but its optional. Im going to say im happy to do it, but i cant have the court dates put back as i cant get any till next year.
so update on my situation.
cafcass should be close to completing their report. they did say to me their is hostility. but i believe its not from me. so i recommended a private parenting course that me and the ex can go on. cafcass was thrilled about this, and encouraged it to the ex, who didnt seem to pleased.
im still worried that cafcass will go against me in the report, and say not to give me the 50/50 access i want.
what have others reports been like from cafcass, positive or neutrel?
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