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Hi every one
I was not well enough to come on the forum before so sorry for that.i had a ffh in jan 2017 where i was very disapppointed by the nudgement given and judge has orderd to complete the cafcas section 7 report.In the report cafcass officer called the chldren into her office which is ununderstandable because she wouldnt go there without coaching them .Although she has requsted the court for supervised contact.The children have said some things new which i havent seen but i dont know what court can do regarding that .i need ur assistance as hearing is on 24th of may and i cannt afford a barrister again .so please do advice me if they offer a suprvised contact ,will i be able to spend sometimes on their birthdays, religius days etc .can i request them to have some independent time with me .shall i ask for a teview in 6 months
This time your help is v meaningfull to me .i wanted to upload the cafcass report bit i am not sure is it safe or not?please inform me if you want that to be attached so you can have some clear idea
Reagards
Hi mojo
Unfortunately in previous post i did write that cafcass advised for supervised contact but actully she said it should be in direct and i cannt understand why this is being said .on one place she writes there is to much hate bring told to children about me .i got some questions if you could help it will be a lot easier for me.cafcass officer asked me do u accept the judgement isaid no can it go against me?previously my ex blamed me for hitting my daughter but she didnt say nrither to social services nor any one in ffh we raised this point that y she didnt mention anywhere noe ex coached her and she added this one what do you think what are the chances here? I already got infirect contact to send them cards every fortnight the question how come i will be able to build up relationship if i cannt see them?
Lastly what are the chances are in this case will i be able to get any supervised contact?
Thnx
Hi There,
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Don't up load the report as it will have personal details and they shouldn't be posted on an open forum.
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I don't know enough about these sort of cases but I am sure that you should be able to ask that the supervised contact be reviewed and that it be moved to unsupervised contact as long as any concerns raised in the report have been addressed.
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GTTS
Hi there
Was it the CAFCASS report that recommended supervised contact, or was it the mother?
As GTTS says, it's very unwise to upload any official court documents, as they are confidential and you could get into trouble for contempt of court.
It would be a good idea to write a short, two page position statement, explaining your situation and what you would like to happen...for instance if supervised contact is ordered you would like there to be a defined, progressive schedule of contact. You could prepare a schedule of contact yourself, that starts at the contact centre but after a period of time, moves out of the centre and is unsupervised, increasing the times you have your children gradually until you reach an amount of contact you and the children would be happy with.
In this proposed schedule you could include extra time for birthdays, special occasions and school holidays. It would be sensible to ask for a review hearing too.
Best of luck
HI again
Sorry i missed in the last contsct due to a mistake i wrote supervised contact.infact she advised that it should be indirect .i alredy have indorect contact with children .it is clearly stated that children being told to hate me.i cannt understand why the children being called to cafcass office rather then visitong them in school.can some one give any advice how i should be able to see them its more than a year now
Regards
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I wish I could tell you what will happen, but it's impossible to predict the outcome, especially without knowing the details of your case.
Perhaps you should write a brief statement to tell the court how you feel about indirect contact, put your case forward for contact to be supervised at first to see how things go and tell them how you hope that contact can be increased slowly and move from the contact centre out into the community, putting the reasons why you think that would be what is best for your children.... and why not seeing you isn't what is best for them.
Good luck
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