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Hello so I'm sure some of you have read my previous posts.
Have a final hearing coming up in a few weeks for contact order for my daughter, last time at court it was orderd for some counselling for myself and for my daughter.
I attended counselling to be told by the services that I do not meet the criteria I have not scored enough points and that what I am experiencing is a "normal stress reaction"
Basically cafcass have interpreted me ringing them quite a lot and other services trying to move things along in connection to contact sessions which were to take place that my behaviour is obsessive and of concern which in y opinion is ridiculous. I am doing what any other parent would be doing.
Anyway so after this I have spoken to my FCA today who has now suddenly decided that because she is stuck on the case and doesn't really know where to go I with it next that she is going to recommend that my daughter has a guardian (the FCA ) and her own solicitior.
This was mentioned by my solicitor at the last hearing to the FCA who didn't feel it was necessary.
Also the FCA has now said that she thinks it might be benefical to have a full psychological assessment done to understand my behaviour.
This is crazy!
I have a letter from my GP, a letter from a mental health nurse and 2 letters from 2 different physchogical services , surely the court will not agree to this.
The whole idea of having a final hearing is for it to be done and dusted, but now I'm in fear that no order is going to be made at the final hearing and its going to go on for longer and longer its already been 9 months!
How likely are the court to approve the recommendation for a guardian what are peoples experiences with it, and opinions on the psychological assessment.
I am absolutely terrified that I am going to get a no contact order. It would destroy me and my partner.
Thanks in advance
Hi there
Try not to worry, if you have letters stating you are ok and your actions have been a normal stress reaction to the situation you're in, the court should take that on board. You will have to ask permission to file the experts letters wh the court, if you don't already have that.
Believe me, nine months in the history of family court cases isn't a long time at all, my sons first case lasted over a year and the second almost two years and there's probably many dads here that will tell you the same.
I wouldn't worry too much about a guardian being appointed for your child, this can work in your child's favour in as much as it is mostly in the childs best interests to have both parents involved in their life.
Try to limit the number of calls you make going forward, bearing in mind it is this that has prompted the authorities to want to look at you further.... try and keep calm and reasonable and keep your emotions in check...it will help you to deal with things better.
All the best
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