[Solved] CAFCASS Recommendations Positive - BUT ...

The Judges stuck to my Cafcass report like glue mate if thats any help 🙂

That was for the girls to reside with my ex

for me to do a parenting course

for me to get PR after the contact centre

for me to see my girl in a contact centre for 3 months

for me to have 2 indirect contacts with my step daughter a year (im not having that)

for me to have a drug test

and for my ex to attend a DV course (LOL)

for me to have unsupervised access after the 3 months in CC

That was exactly what caftwats recommended and thats exactly what the court ordered.

Aw best of luck Eric...it's perfectly normal to feel full of doubt and sick with worry at this stage, but you have the recommendations of CAFCASS backing your application....that's really positive!

The night before court make sure you get an early night, get everything prepared the night before too...shirt ironed, shoes shined.... so that all you have to do in the morning is get yourselves ready.... and make sure you have plenty of change for the coffee machine and parking!

Most judges go with Cafcass recommendations in cases like this, so the odds are stacked in your favour. From what I've been told, the judges rarely read the full main body of the reports and tend to read the recommendations. Even with some of it 'sitting on the fence' ultimately, they are recommending what is best for the children.

Sending you guys the best of luck, sure you will be great & please let us know how you get on 🙂

Hi Eric14,

Yes, I would agree with the sentiments of the posters before me.
In my sons case, Cafcass flagged up the issue that my son had no access to his sons medical notes
and didn't have access to the nursery, much to their concern.
The magistrates went by the Cafcass report and hey presto, my son was able to visit the nursery as well
as the GP surgery.
The courts will normally stick to what they recommend.

NJ makes a good point about the parking...lol.:)
But yes, it is perfectly understandable to feel nervous and apprehensive, nevertheless I wish you
the very best of luck on the day.

Take care
Kirsten

Have you been to court yet Eric14? Just wondering how it had gone. 🙂

Unfortunately Eric's case got postponed less than 24 hours before it was due to be heard, due to volume of cases apparently. As you can imagine he and his family are extremely upset.

Hi Guys

we have a new date end of October,

the ex has been given a chance to put in place all that was wrong with her last statement we have been very lucky and have a very experienced MF helping us so feel more confident

but this will now be a full on fight and even with the recommendations in our favour I fear now with a new judge a new court and a new date that somehow it could all work against us - but we have to try and stay positive and believe the judge will listen to cafcass for once we want them to take the report recommendation word for word and rubber stamp it

it's harder as the weeks go on as my youngest daughter is finding it hard to understand why she can not live with me and broke my heart this morning my saying she had a dream the judge said you can stay with daddy forever and she had tears in her eyes,

their so called mother knows they hate being with her but will never put anyone but herself first and couldn't careless how this is effecting the children ,

I am not a religious man but I have even prayed that my children are safe and get their wish id do anything to make their dreams come true

We are all behind you Eric, the system is so flawed, how on earth they could think that it was ok to postpone a case just hours before it was due to be heard, and with the safeguarding issues and CAFCASS recommendations that there are, is so far beyond me!

Chin up, you have CAFCASS and right on your side.

cheers mate

your right we are down but not out 😉 and I won't give in I will never stop fighting for what is right for my babies I can hold my head up knowing I did everything I just want their childhood to be enjoyed and not like how it is with her,

Like Mojo said, we are all behind you and rooting for you.
Just a thought though....
Maybe ( sneaky I know) you could get the children to draw pictures of how they would see
life with you ( no written stuff other than daddy, me, sibling ) and slip it into the bundles.

Might be doable and would be something I would certainly attempt to do.

Good luck, my fingers will be crossed on the day for you.

Take care
Kirsten