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HEY FATHERS OF INJUSTICE LIKE ME..
I REALLY NEED SOMEONE TO HELP LIKE WE ALL DO... I'M NOW AT A STAGE OF THE CAFCASS WORKER WANTING ME TO BE ORDERED TO BE ASSESSED ON MY PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE OF MIND AFTER I REFUSED TO DO IMPACT SESSIONS BECAUSE OF THE STRESS & DEGRADING TREATMENT IVE PUT THROUGH, I GOT A DOCTORS LETTER SAYING I HAVE PHYICAL STRESS WHEN IN CONTACT CENTRES AND I HAVE HAD GLOWING REPORTS ON MY ACCESS TO MY BOY WHO IS 17 MONTHS OLD, I GOT 4 HRS A WEEK OUTSIDE CONTACT AND I BROKE THE ORDER BY THE CAR BREAKING DOWN, KEPT HIM OVERNIGHT AS IT WAS CLOSE TO MY HOUSE AND ALL [censored] BROKE LOOSE AND NOW THEY STOPPED ME SEEING HIM SINCE AUGUST 1ST , IM NOW UP FOR ALLEGATIONS OF THE NON MOLESTATION ORDER AND I WANT GET THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD CHECKED OUT AS SHE HAS A MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE OF PARANOIA AND REFUSES TO BE DIAGNOSED WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER , I ASKING FOR A FORM FOR HER MOTHER TO SWEAR ON OATH AND THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD ABOUT ALL HER FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF MY NON MOLESTATION ORDER AND CROSS EXAMINE THE MOTHER ON HER DISGUSTING ALLEGATIONS WHICH LED TO THE NON MOL ORDER..AND HER MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES WHICH I CANT PROVE LEGALLY BY BY OF DOCTORS NOTES
IF THE ALLEGATIONS PROVE TO BE TRUE ON HER ACCUSING ME I STILL WANT THE MOTHER TO BE ORDERED TO BE ASSESSED AS WELL BY THE REQUEST OF ME BEING ASSESSED BY PHYSIOLOGICAL ASSESSOR SINCE I REFUSED THE IMPACT CENTRE WANTING ME IN SECURITY CONTACT AGAIN WHICH I ALREADY HAD GOOD REPORTS WHICH LEAD TO ONLY 4 HRS OF FREE TIME WITH HIM AND THIS SERIOULSLY MAKES ME ILL AND REFUSED TO GO ON MEDICAL GROUNDS- HENCE NOW THEY WANT A ASSESSMENT ON ME WHICH IS A JOKE..
SORRY FOR THE LONG WINDED EMAIL HOPE SOMEONE CAN HELP IM DESPERATE TO SEE MY LITTLE MAN
MARK
Hi Mark
I've deleted your duplicate post, it only confuses things if members start answering on both posts and just makes it disjointed.
It's also best to change your username, if it's your real name, as this is a public forum and your posts can be seen by anyone who might search for you.
It's never a good idea to point blank refuse to jump through the hoops placed in front of you, it's so important not to let your emotions take over in your situation, even though the whole thing is emotive! You have to separate from the emotional side of it and always be seen to be in control and calm and reasonable.
I won't lie, it was a big mistake to keep him overnight, regardless of your car breaking down. Did you let anyone know at the time? The courts really take a dim view of this kind of action, it breaches the order and also causes a lot of distress to the mother, it also raises the question of you taking your child in the future and whether you can be trusted not to do it again.
It's also never a good idea to answer allegations made about you with counter allegations about the mother...it comes across as [censored] for tat and rarely works in the counter accusers favour.
You say if the allegations prove to be true...that seems to say that they are? The best advice I can give you, is to do everything they ask of you, the bottom line is that you kept your child when you shouldn't have and as you admit, all [censored] broke loose. It's the reason that they want to resume contact supervised in a contact centre and to be honest, a doctors letter isn't going to change their opinion on this matter. If I were you I would apologise and agree to whatever restrictions they want to impose, it won't be forever, but if you can't show them that you are a responsible and reliable person you will have an uphill battle to get any contact.
The court and the various agencies aren't interested in your problems unless they effect the child, all they care about is the safety and security of the child, and by keeping him, you have raised doubts that you now have to answer to, and put right....it may seem unfair but if you want to see your child you will have to start working with the system, as flawed as it is sometimes. They don't know you, only what they see from your actions, put that right and you might be able to get things back on track.
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