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Cafcass have received the court order they said, so they going to be preparing a section 7. Not sure fully what to expect but i done the following:
1. 5 training courses including Separated parenting course, childrens food and hygeine, first aid for children, etc.
2. i have prepared a document showing pictures of me with the kids before the breakup, to show how heavily i was involved with them.
3. i have all my contact centre reports, which show no issues.
4. have work references, and school references which show i was involved with school drop offs and have flexible working hours.
The only issue im going to have is my location, as i live 1 hour away. im going to move closer as i said once i sell the family house. But i dont know if cafcass will take this on board, i want close to 50/50 access as possible. im actively looking for houses, and i have a family member nearby the kids who i could say im staying with.
Any other suggestions how i can best prepare with cafcass appreciated. i have a plan on how i want to arrange the days etc.
it seems your doing all the right things, but what let me down when i was in a similar situation was not being close by. i lived 1.5 hrs away and i ended up with the default, every other weekend and half holidays.
to get as close to 50/50 you need to be a resident near by, with some actual bills in your name, such as gas/electric or paying council tax. if you said your planning to move, i would try and move near there asap. if you get to your final hearing they will base on it actual facts where you are, and require evidence to !! not what you say you can do in the future.
gd luck.
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