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Just had the exact same happen to me. I have not seen my child since he was 2 weeks old. He is about to turn 1 on the 16th April next Saturday. Ex partner made up all of the allegations under the sun. Was with her for 10.5 years. Together during pregnancy and birth and broke up because she decided once the baby arrived she was going to use him as a weapon. Name him a first name as an attack to me. Not include my surname so his named solely her surname. Not put me on the birth certificate so I have no parental rights. Luckily I was not married to this demon or it could of been worse. I went to the solicitors in May 2021. Sat and waited for a year for my child hearing. We have non molestations on one another. I put a non molestation on her because I heard through the grapevine she had made up allegations to get me arrested. So I quickly ran to my solicitor and paid for a non mol to be put on her due to the attack I was under. Judge put a cross interim non mol on both of us. She’s gone to every womens aid type organisation to play a victim and managed to score herself 8/24 as a victim of domestic abuse. She then went back months later and made up more allegations to say she could be murdered by me and that there is history of sexual abuse and that I am a known criminal who is known for firearms and other multiple crimes. She then scored 18/24. Again the organisation have never spoken to me at all. I blocked my ex partner in May 2021 and from May 2021 up until December 2021 she suddenly became a victim of domestic abuse, coercive control, threats to kill, stalking, harassment, emotional and sexual abuse. You name it. All within a period where it was me not wanting to speak to her. She even tried to get me arrested for breaches of the non molestation order saying that I drove pass her house which the non mol says I’m not allowed to her address not that I’m not allowed to drive down her road. Even then she made it up. I went for a police voluntary interview and again got a no further action. I have no criminal record whatsoever. Eventually after 6 months the police disclosure came which showed I have no criminal record whatsoever and that the police were never called in 10.5 years we were together and that all the allegations happen to have been made after the baby arrived.
When I was arrested for coercive control in September for allegations that I took a car baby seat 4 months before in May and that I refused to pay for her car and that supposedly I blocked a bank card that’s in her name. How can you block someone else’s bank card lol. Anyway. I was informed that cafcass were made aware. It was also noted that I am known to be erratic with the police. Again another lie. She made up all of these allegations so she could get an arrest and then claim legal aid to fight the case to stop me from seeing my son.
Anyway, 6 months after that I have waited for Cafcass to contact me so they can do a report on me for court. On Saturday April 9th at 9pm I received an email from cafcass saying that have closed my case and sent a safeguard letter to the court.
i will copy and paste the letter. I’m confused and lost really and it’s pretty much ruined the rest of my weekend as the solicitors and courts and cafcass don’t open until Monday. I now can’t sleep and have had a severe night swet which I’ve been having every day for the past 11 months as I have not seen my son. Access was even refused for a day before his birthday for a few hours. It was expected im numb to it. I just want to get in court on May 9th and get my access. I even said to the other side that just to see my child I am willing to hire an independent social worker who will supervise all contact 3 days a week from 9 to 5. This then allowed you to avoid the child contact centre. It is expensive however. I shouldn’t have to pay a thing to see my own child. She ignored the child contact centre and made up excuses like it was too far for her to travel to by car. 20min car journey. Then months later she said I have friends in that area and that she would be afraid for hers and the baby’s wellbeing. Again, implying criminals. Made up nonsense.
what do you think about this from cafcass if they have not contacted me to interview me.
Dear Mr *,
I am writing to let you know that Cafcass’ involvement in the court proceedings relating to ** and your family has now been completed. You should have received a copy of the report – known as a safeguarding letter - we wrote for the court to advise on the next steps. Cafcass will no longer be involved in this matter unless the court contact us again in the future, and we have therefore closed your case.
What this means
The court will write to you to explain what will happen next. You may be involved in further hearings without Cafcass, or the court may have sent you an order setting out the arrangements for your child. Unfortunately Cafcass is not able to offer you advice about any breakdown in arrangements or if there has been a significant change in your family situation, as we can only get involved again if the court ask us to.
We realise that it may be difficult to know where to turn should you feel you need more advice or support. We have therefore created a list of resources you may find useful which are available via our website www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/resources-parents-carers/.
If in the future you have serious concerns relating to the arrangements the court has ordered for * and you have done all you can to make these work, then you may need to contact the court and discuss further court proceedings, seek legal advice from a solicitor or seek advice from your local authority children’s services.
We do always try to provide the best possible service to children and their families. If you or * would like to provide any feedback on our work, either positive or where you feel we could have done better, please let us know by contacting us on our website www.cafcass.gov.uk/contact-us
hi,
I am surprised it has taken a year to get your first hearing. did courts give any reason for this? usually cafcass have a short phone call with you before they write and send out the safeguarding letter. so if you have not had your 1st hearing yet and cafcass have already closed their case, then generally this would mean they have no safeguarding concerns about you the and child. But they can be unpredictable and this is not certain.
have they sent you the safeguarding letter and what does it state? what you posted above only mentions that they have closed their case. if they have not sent you the letter, but only sent it to court, then they do this sometimes because if letter contains lot of allegations, it can cause more conflict between parents before or during court proceedings.
@bill337 they have not sent me any safe guarding letter or anything. The email came last night and so they say they have sent one to the court. There would be lots of allegations. Im wondering if my solicitor will have it for tomorrow monday morning. She has made loads of allegations but all are fabricated nonsense. I have no criminal record whatsoever so they would of done all the checks in the background and saw no further action and everything. The way i see it surely if they would say that they do not want me to see my son to a judge then they would have to speak to me to assess me surely. To just close the file and not speak to me could only mean they dont believe the allegations and dont see a problem i hope.
@jr it is likely you and solicitor will get the letter on the day, at the hearing. once cafcass rang me on a saturday morning to do safeguarding phone call. hearing was on following monday and I got the letter on the day while in waiting room.
Thanks and understood. But then if they have closed the case and don’t see the need to speak to me to hear what I have to say or to assess me and I have no criminal record and all investigations by the police for DA have been no further action then surely they are not saying that there is a safe guarding issue around me and my child. Surely they are seeing there’s no issues and we don’t see any objection as to why he shouldn’t see his son. What you reckon. I appreciate you thank you.
hi,
it's possible the cafcass person may be present at the hearing. if so, you could ask did he/she speak to your ex. if they spoke to her and not you, then thats very unfair and you could let court know. if cafcass know that you have not seen child since she was 2 weeks old, then it's possible maybe that they would recommend you to build up a relationship with child slowly. not sure what they will advise to court. maybe use a contact centre or supervised access somewhere else? I am just guessing at what they might recommend to court. better to wait and find out at the hearing.
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