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I’m sorry but I have to disagree with Bill, there have been instances where members have come a cropper because of their accommodation situation. Whilst I’m not aware of any specific CAFCASS policies regarding overnights/sibling room sharing. It would be reasonable that if the boys were all of a similar age, room sharing shouldn’t be a problem, but if there were a large difference in age that might raise questions.
Hello C420,
With regard to your Son and the two older boys sleeping in the same room, it is an important consideration as to whether they are friendly towards each other, does your Son like the older boys, do they like him?. Are the older boys considerate towards a younger child being in the same room and needing to sleep at an earlier time than they? Very often older children will go to bed later or play in their bedroom and if a younger child is asleep in the same room it could cause a bit of a problem to either your Son or the older boys. Having said that, I sincerely hope that it is not a problematic situation for them or you.
Why should 50-50 be rejected if you have room in the house and can provide pick up and drop offs between you or if you have family who can help at times?
To me I would start with 50-50 and look at how you can make that work, show to the courts how you can make that work, if need be then you can come back down to alternate weekends and midweek as the least you would accept but don't offer that at the start.
Look at offering flexibility to limit it being too rigid in case your child wants to do something with the mother or an event or with friends etc... some flexibility would be showing how you can work it rather than it so fixed.
kids should have opportunity to have equal amounts of time with their parents, not restricted to alternate weekends
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