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my wife told cafcass that i use cannabis, (which i do not) also that i drink a lot (i drink about 30 units a week) my wife is denying me contact.
Our children have been with me and my wife since they where born, but she left and took our children with her they are two girls 7 and 5 years. the reason she left was we just do not get on together but she is makeing allagations against me that are not true.
i have not seen the children since 20 April 2013
My wife did not attend the frist hearing on 19 july
so the judge set a new date for 10 sepember.
i do not have any history of hurting our children .
the socail worker did an accessment on our family it said the problem is when me and my wife are together, and and argue they said we are both good perants
before the court hearing i was thinking it would be best to have a hair strand test for cannabis, so i can show i do not take cannabis, is it a good thing to do this? and send the results to cafcass before the court hearing?
or should i wait so i can prove my wife wrong in court?
will cafcass think better of me if i send them the test results before the hearing?
at least they will know i tell the truth and my wife is not telling them the truth?
I can not have a hair strand test for drink as my head hair is to short.
cafcass seem to listen to my wife but not me unless i can prove otherwise.
has any member been through the same situation?
will the court allow me some contact until this situation is sorted out?
LETTER TO COURT FROM CAFCASS.
Initial Advice to the court
• The court may wish to consider hair strand testing in respect of alcohol use and cannabis use.
• A S7 report may be considered beneficial in this matter in relation to the welfare issues raised within this letter. This could be undertaken by the Local Authority who are currently involved in this matter.
• I would advise that contact is considered cautiously in light of the safeguarding concerns raised within this letter.
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