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Hi,
I am looking for abit of help. My ex alleged “domestic violence” and it went to a fact finding. I hired a barrister who had everything thrown out because there is no evidence. The court even said after we arrived for fact finding it wasn’t needed after all because there isn’t any evidence!
A new cafcas report was requested which I just received that says that I committed domestic violence and admitted I did - which Isn’t true! And I can’t have contact until I do a domestic abuse programme - but looking up on this these programmes no longer exist because they are being reformed.
my child also apparently said she’s scared I will try and buy her with money or steal her from her mum - she is 6 years old so obviously that’s been put into her head.
court ordered that I receive letters from my daughter every month, I have been sending them but since last hearing where I basically won it’s all been stopped and I haven’t received any letter. I was having video chats but they’ve stopped too!
my parents and her cousins and aunties/uncles are also being denied any access to my child. My parents are thinking of applying for access of their own now.
I have court on Friday to discuss access but I have no idea what the judge will order. I am so upset that my ex can say whatever she wants and cafcas believe her but not me!
im terrified they will say no contact and I’ll loose my daughter. I’ve already lost so much time with her! Any help or advice I’d appreciated.
Thanks for reading
Hi,
Sorry to hear your going through tough time. I would suggest you challenge this cafcass report at next hearing. I heard that the DAPP courses will become available next year. Something to discuss with courts and cafcass and whether you should be going on the course in the first place. Have a read of your latest court papers and see if it is asking you to submit a statement.
@bill337 thank you for taking time to reply. No they haven’t asked for a statement this time. I will challenge cafcas when I get to court.
I don’t want to do a course when I don’t think that I was a domestic abuser, I feel like they are forcing me to admit to something I haven’t done and using my daughter as a pawn.
it’s just such a horrible situation, I wish it could have been peaceful.
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