[Solved] c100 stamp or not?

You'll be better off biting the bullet and getting it signed off asap she won't suddenly turn round and be all co-operative it's going to get worse before it gets better and she will really dig her heels in once you go to court it's a whole lot of pain and she may stop all contact altogether but it's well worth getting a solid court order so she can't do this again 🙂

Thanks Slim, that's exactly as I thought, I'm so nervous about court but like you say it's the only way I can really see my child getting the correct all round balance that she should have.I'll let you know how mediation goes tomorrow.

Is it likely that my c100 will be redirected back to mediation if I ask for this to be stamped at the MIAM?

Is it likely that my c100 will be redirected back to mediation if I ask for this to be stamped at the MIAM?

Mediators are required to invite the other party for a MIAM when you go for your own one.

Your signed C100 is *usually* not returned to you until both parties have had their MIAM (or one party has refused, etc) - because one of the questions on the C100 that the Mediator must sign, concerns the other party and their MIAM (or lack of, if they refused). So until the mediator has actually given the other party their MIAM (or the other party has point-blank refused MIAM and mediation - or taken one elsewhere) they do not know which "box to tick"..so to speak.

Some mediators may be happy to tick one of the boxes after giving you your MIAM, but they really should wait until they know for certain what is going on with the other party....but no harm in asking.

Once the mediator signs off the C100 it is an acknowledgement that in his opinion mediation isn't suitable or has failed.

I understand you have doubts that your ex will keep to any agreements that are made so I suggest that you discuss this with the mediator.

It can happen that a judge will order that mediation is attempted, this could happen but it's not a given.

I think rather than trying to second guess what's going to happen, try and keep an open mind, be clear about your objectives and give it your best shot. You have no control over your ex and I've always found it best not to give too much thought to what she may be doing etc....just concentrate on the task at hand, rise above any ill feelings and keep your child at the centre in everything you say and do.

Best of luck for tomorrow.

...I've deleted your duplicate post from the welcome section...having two identical threads running at the same time can be confusing!

I totally agree but the task at hand is to give my child a balanced life asap and judging how things have been and how they are my personal opinion is that court will achieve this quicker. I suppose I'll attend MIAM explain my concerns and maybe give them a chance to contact the ex to see what she says, as I currently see it all communication has now been stopped with myself as I haven't had a reply since yesterday regarding my child which is really sad. I was hoping for a mature amicable outcome but when someone behaves like this its hard to see where their interests lie. I would of course love to enforce a happy plan for everyone away from even mediation but it doesn't look likely that this will happen with mediation. I shall try to keep an open mind but if failure is apparent via mediation then I will have no option but to go to court. I'm not going to be strung along any further than what I already have, its not fair on anyone involved.

Explain how you feel, let the mediator know that she has seemingly suspended all contact since you spoke to her about attending mediation and doesn't stick to agreements that have been made in the past anyway....he may decide to sign it off given these circumstances.

Thanks Mojo, you have all been so helpful. Even though I'm currently in a worse situation than I was, I feel much better. I'm no longer worried it will never be sorted, I can see the light, and I thank you all so much. Your support is what has got me to this position and I thank you.