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Hello. I’m back. We had our DRA. I took your advices and admitted some of the behaviour and said I’m willing to do go a course. I also agreed that child should live with mum rather than me. However they said they still can’t offer me contact in the meantime because cafcass hasn’t recommended it and it is opposed by respondent. We now have a final hearing where I’ll cross examine the cafcass officer. I’m a LIP.
any advice on what to expect at final hearing and how to do my best to secure contact?
hi,
I think you need to change your position and accept all the findings, and volunteer to do a course. can briefly mention this in a statement. and you can put some proposals for starting contact. with their system, starting point is usually a supervised contact centre.
Any idea on how the final hearing is expected to go? Apparently the focus won’t be on my ex as she agrees with cafcass and as I’m disputing it, it’ll be me cross examine cafcass. Does this mean my ex won’t really say much through her barrister?
have you come across examples of LIP successfully cross examine and getting cafcass recommendations overturned?
this my last chance to not mess it up, wanna get it right.
as for accepting all findings I’m in two minds about that as that would mean accepting I was physically abusive whilst she was 7 months pregnant. That simply isn’t true. She’s exaggerated and changed the scenario. But courts have believe her.
I’m hoping by accepting some of it (being a bully) that that can sway them
You'll need to be very child focused. There is a guide on representing yourself in court on the advicenow.org.uk website which may been helpful to you.
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