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My ex partner left me with our daughter on March 2014 claiming DV (no warning)
Took out a non molestation order on ex parte in April 2014
I put in a contact application in April 2014
Reunited with her in June 2014 although order was still in place
Withdrew contact application June 2014 as we were back together
My ex left me again end of June 2014 and went abroad for 3 weeks leaving our 10 month daughter with her sister (no warning again)
July 2014 I attempt to get a emergency order to have my daughter stay with me as mother not in country
It wasn’t granted due to previous application for contact I made, had allegations of DV against me (no evidence/arrests/convictions for DV)
Judge ordered my daughter to stay with sister and ordered my daughter cannot leave the country
Case was adjourned while cafcass and social services produce reports
August 2014 Non molestation trial took place and was completely discharged due to my evidence and no show of my ex
Order from judge has been breached as my daughter is now staying with mother at grandparents house according to social services report. The court has been alerted of this.
New case has now been listed for 45mins on 8th October to deal with where my daughter should live
I am seeking 50/50 shared care arrangement, along with a few PSO's
She lives 50 miles away ( I plan to relocate to mothers town if need be)
child is 14 months old now
aahhhhh were you the dude who posted that you had got back with your ex and all was rosy?
Yep that was me. Things were good until I dropped her at her mothers house for a BBQ back in June.
That was the last time I saw her and my daughter. I don't know what her family did/said to her but it sure worked because the next thing I knew she was in Africa????!
The police told me this as I reported her missing due to not hearing from her for over a week. She was only suppose to stay for the BBQ then come back the day after.
Really confused and lost to be honest, either way I have to crack on with the court process as every attempt to communicate with her has either been blocked or straight out ignored.
What a nightmare man, sorry you've not seen your daughter for so long trust me I know how it feels, it seems like you can't do no more you're going about it all the right way and you seem to know what you're on with and confident.
No one can say what the court will order but I can't see them ordering 50/50 straight away, you will defo get contact but as your daughter is so you they may order contact to start short sweet and regular but at least that will get the ball rolling.
Have cafcass concluded all their reports if so whats the general beef and what have they recommended it cool youve got the Non mol sorted that will go in your favour for sure. I'm presuming this is a directions or review hearing which is it?
The court process is long winded but the only way , keep at it it sounds like your ex will shot herself in the foot the way she's going about things . Prove you can offer your daughter stability, your prepared to move etc. and be there for her things will get better , good luck .
Yeah man wise words get dug in for the fight 🙂
It's the worst thing ever! I believe her family have brainwashed her somehow! It's completely strange!!
Yes I have thrown so much money at solicitors/barristers, although I have their help I am still very hands on, I sourced my solicitor who is great, and I have also sourced my own barrister with 20 years of experience under her belt I'm hoping she will perform magic in court lol
Yes cafcass and social services have produced reports which basically say mother is giving mixed messages about me and they don't know who to believe, social services recommend my daughter spends time with me. Cafcass recommends a fact finding hearing, which I think is ridiculous. I mean how many times do I need to contest my innocence, 1. Police have closed their file, 2. Non mol was successfully discharged. We even reunited and again I'm expected to fight off these bogus DV claims. I have 7 offences to my name, all relating to dishonesty fraud, deception etc. All were committed years ago. Nothing to do with assault/violence or abuse in any way.
I have no idea what to expect in the hearing but I assume it's to do with the court deciding where my daughter should live but since the mother has returned from Africa she obviously made that decision herself regardless of the court order. So will be interesting to see what the court do about it
Well make sure them solicitors work their asses off for you seeing as your lining their pockets, them buggers make a habit out of slowing things down and dragging everything out for their benefit and more ££££ for them.
It all seems really good and in your favour if cafcass recommend contact then your laughing 🙂
Yeah the courts are unreal im on my 3rd drug test all have been negative got to do parenting classes despite bringing up my exs other daughter for 6 years its crazy man we have to jump through all these hoops and they don't have to do jack, i think you will be fine for court 🙂
Thanks for the encouragement! I just want to be there for my daughter as much as possible, I will do whatever it takes to secure custody or at the very least 50/50 shared care arrangement.
I have done so much already as I am very blessed to have time and money on my side.
1. Taken several parenting courses ( I have plenty certificates now) including the SPIP
2. Completed a first aid course specialised for children with St John ambulance
3. Even enrolled myself on a CACHE LEVEL 3 DIPLOMA EARLY YEARS COURSE AT COLLEGE
this course is for 2 years. Once completed I will be qualified to work with young children. It's on a part time basis so I can work on it at my own pace.
4. Starting unpaid work in a nursery next week as it's part of the course.
My family think I am mad. But I will do whatever it takes legally to prove I am the best person for my daughter.
If there is anything more I can do please let me know
Thank you all
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